Married Woman and Extrication

[TarponSpringsNole]

He’s pointing out the contrast in his relationships between a married and unmarried woman.
Something that might be odd, funny, irritable, etc. Is nuance new to you?

@NorthernHawkeye

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One would think the married one would be grounded and sane, and the single one batsh1t crazy.
But wait! There’s a twist. It’s the opposite!
Wow. Amazing. No way!

 

[St. Louis Hawk]

 

[millah_22]

I had a similar situation a few years ago. I did some work collaboration with a woman a little younger than me. Smart, funny, gorgeous…and married. She started asking me to do things together. We would go hiking, go to the pool, have drinks at each other’s houses.

I ended up meeting with her and her husband to discuss our friendship. I didn’t want to be complicit in negatively impacting a marriage. They assured me that it was no problem, their relationship was strong, and this wasn’t abnormal for her.

As time went on our feelings progressed. We never acted on them physically but it was clear that the line was getting blurry. Out of the blue she told me that she had asked her husband to move out and shortly thereafter I cut off all communication. That was exactly what I did not want. I was naive and we were both definitely wrong. I believe they are still married but regardless, it is not something I’m proud of.

Tread lightly OP.

Should tapped that ass like a drum circle.

 

[jellyfish10]

Should tapped that ass like a drum circle.

The whole her being married thing was a big deterrent. To this day I have no clue why she had any interest in me. She is way, way out of my league.

 

[Tiny Hands Trump]

Facts, first. I have a unmarried (as am I), long time lady friend. I befriended a married woman who I know through a job contact. My goal was purely to see that she was not mentally abused at that job since I worked there before she was hired and I know the boss is an ahole (understatement). I gave her my number to text me if she had any work related issues. Well within 2 weeks, I've learned she is in a failed marriage, when she's ovulating, favorite foods, things I should do for self-betterment etc etc. She is also 16 years younger than I am. So studs, do you ever get in such a bind? The solution is stop all communication, right?

 

[SolarHawk]

Facts, first. I have a unmarried (as am I), long time lady friend. I befriended a married woman who I know through a job contact. My goal was purely to see that she was not mentally abused at that job since I worked there before she was hired and I know the boss is an ahole (understatement). I gave her my number to text me if she had any work related issues. Well within 2 weeks, I've learned she is in a failed marriage, when she's ovulating, favorite foods, things I should do for self-betterment etc etc. She is also 16 years younger than I am. So studs, do you ever get in such a bind? The solution is stop all communication, right?

This is the most confusing and convoluted OP I've ever read, and I used to not have OiT on ignore so......

 

[fredjr82]

Facts, first. I have a unmarried (as am I), long time lady friend. I befriended a married woman who I know through a job contact. My goal was purely to see that she was not mentally abused at that job since I worked there before she was hired and I know the boss is an ahole (understatement). I gave her my number to text me if she had any work related issues. Well within 2 weeks, I've learned she is in a failed marriage, when she's ovulating, favorite foods, things I should do for self-betterment etc etc. She is also 16 years younger than I am. So studs, do you ever get in such a bind? The solution is stop all communication, right?

Rebounds after a failed marriage always pan out. I say go for it!!

 

[desihawk]

Facts, first. I have a unmarried (as am I), long time lady friend. I befriended a married woman who I know through a job contact. My goal was purely to see that she was not mentally abused at that job since I worked there before she was hired and I know the boss is an ahole (understatement). I gave her my number to text me if she had any work related issues. Well within 2 weeks, I've learned she is in a failed marriage, when she's ovulating, favorite foods, things I should do for self-betterment etc etc. She is also 16 years younger than I am. So studs, do you ever get in such a bind? The solution is stop all communication, right?

don't check her out with your dipstick (yet) but as a hrot teamplayer i say you should keep in touch and periodically update this thread

 

[GOHOX69]

This is the most confusing and convoluted OP I've ever read, and I used to not have OiT on ignore so......

High praise, coming from you

 

[IIowaFarmBoy]

I had a similar situation a few years ago. I did some work collaboration with a woman a little younger than me. Smart, funny, gorgeous…and married. She started asking me to do things together. We would go hiking, go to the pool, have drinks at each other’s houses.

I ended up meeting with her and her husband to discuss our friendship. I didn’t want to be complicit in negatively impacting a marriage. They assured me that it was no problem, their relationship was strong, and this wasn’t abnormal for her.

As time went on our feelings progressed. We never acted on them physically but it was clear that the line was getting blurry. Out of the blue she told me that she had asked her husband to move out and shortly thereafter I cut off all communication. That was exactly what I did not want. I was naive and we were both definitely wrong. I believe they are still married but regardless, it is not something I’m proud of.

Tread lightly OP.

Don't tread at all.

 

[IIowaFarmBoy]

OP is a despicable opportunist. Grow up.

 

[GOHOX69]

OP is a despicable opportunist. Grow up.

Besides you being a troll and an idiot, do I know you?

 

[IIowaFarmBoy]

Besides you being a troll and an idiot, do I know you?

No, but don't mess. I don't need to know anymore.

 

[Hawk-A-Doodle-Doo]

Please, It's Incredibly Trival Because the answer is so obvious.

 

[IIowaFarmBoy]

Besides you being a troll and an idiot, do I know you?

Not a troll, but you are an idiot.

 

[Thunderlips71]

The whole her being married thing was a big deterrent. To this day I have no clue why she had any interest in me. She is way, way out of my league.

You must have what the kids these days call “rizz”.

 

[desihawk]

You must have what the kids these days call “rizz”.

did you mistype the j word?

 

[jellyfish10]

You must have what the kids these days call “rizz”.

I have no idea what that means.

 

[NorthernHawkeye]

@NorthernHawkeye

Did this help?
One would think the married one would be grounded and sane, and the single one batsh1t crazy.
But wait! There’s a twist. It’s the opposite!
Wow. Amazing. No way!

A married woman possibly on the prowl is a new concept to you?

 

[TarponSpringsNole]

A married woman possibly on the prowl is a new concept to you?

Oh boy. Forget it. lol.

 

[NDallasRuss]

I have no idea what that means.

Short for "charisma"

 

[Whiskeydeltadeltatango]

NBHNC

 

[NDallasRuss]

Facts, first. I have a unmarried (as am I), long time lady friend. I befriended a married woman who I know through a job contact. My goal was purely to see that she was not mentally abused at that job since I worked there before she was hired and I know the boss is an ahole (understatement). I gave her my number to text me if she had any work related issues. Well within 2 weeks, I've learned she is in a failed marriage, when she's ovulating, favorite foods, things I should do for self-betterment etc etc. She is also 16 years younger than I am. So studs, do you ever get in such a bind? The solution is stop all communication, right?

If not before, that's certainly where I would have told her to STFU. Her life seems shitty, so how's she gonna have the cajones to opine on mine?

Don't ghost her. Be a man. Tell her that the whole thing is far more than you intended to get into, and you're not comfortable continuing the "relationship" or whatever you want to call it.

You don't want any part of that. Too many chances for bad chit to happen. Maybe the guy finds out about you, so he gets pissed and kills you. Maybe the guy divorces her, and you're left to pick up pieces, which may be worse than had he killed you. Either way, it's burning up energy you don't need to dedicate to all that.