The Research says yes.
Good job Millennial Men!
Good job Millennial Men!
Millennial Dads the best Dads ever?
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I love my kids 
But I also love my wife. Not fair to make her do all that work as she has a full time job too. I'm not sure I know any of my friends who don't do the things listed in the post.
But I also love my wife. Not fair to make her do all that work as she has a full time job too. I'm not sure I know any of my friends who don't do the things listed in the post.
Making them pansexual takes time.
Lazy f***ers. They just don’t want to work.
Signed,
The Boomer MAGAs of HBOT
Signed,
The Boomer MAGAs of HBOT
Millie's are just house poor. They have no money to have real hobbies.
Also, obligatory....
You’re not wrong. We’ve done a great job of keeping a booming middle class in this country.Millie's are just house poor. They have no money to have real hobbies.
Also, obligatory....
Phucking millenials always thinking they are special...
You are sort of right.Millie's are just house poor. They have no money to have real hobbies.
Also, obligatory....
Boomers were mostly terrible parents because they’re mostly selfish awful people.
Those born 10-20 years after them meant well, but there were so many boomers just ahead of them, they had to bust their asses and work stupid hours to keep a job.
So the latch key kids that resulted (40-50 year olds now) had absent parents and didn’t want to do the same. They tried, but the housing crash and dot-com bust made it difficult on many.
Now the millennials are in a spot where they’ve often seen the good and bad versions of parents. The economy isn’t great, they can’t afford houses, careers have been largely lost to mere jobs, etc. So they have said eff it… I’ll focus on what is really important. My family.
I respect the hell out of that. Family and happiness is much more important than a job that doesn’t care about you.
Maybe Boomers and Gen X should keep trying to blame us for killing all the industries like we gaf.
Had to stop and start sorry*
Being a parent is crazy, I have many accomplishments that I'm quite proud of, her victories Trump mine with zero effort.
I'm going to go softie on you before I drive her to day care.
The week before last I pulled my golf back out and started getting ready for a trip. She rode in the cart last year and hung out but she is almost 3 now and... she has her dad's independence 😃. So I'm scrubbing my clubs ect and start working on some basic putting drills on a mat. She wants to do it.
( got home)
Alright, dad's mallet, to big, no worries, mom's putter, better, but still too big. Aha! I've got an old hybrid in the garage i haven't used for years. Zuv'n'me you are getting your first club! So she helps me put it in a vice, we tape it so the shaft doesn't splinter, we measure twice, ruin a saw blade cutting through fiberglass, tape her a grip...by this time she isn't having as much fun as dad is but I'm keeping her in the game... we go back down stairs.. I line her up from about 2 feet away.. SHE DRAINS IT!!!
Boys, I've done some shit, my name can be found in the record books, I ****ing melted when she looked at me after it went in. I would have traded every trophy, every win, every girl after the game, all of it, to know my little girl was going to have that feeling even a few more times in her life.
Being a parent is crazy, I have many accomplishments that I'm quite proud of, her victories Trump mine with zero effort.
I'm going to go softie on you before I drive her to day care.
The week before last I pulled my golf back out and started getting ready for a trip. She rode in the cart last year and hung out but she is almost 3 now and... she has her dad's independence 😃. So I'm scrubbing my clubs ect and start working on some basic putting drills on a mat. She wants to do it.
( got home)
Alright, dad's mallet, to big, no worries, mom's putter, better, but still too big. Aha! I've got an old hybrid in the garage i haven't used for years. Zuv'n'me you are getting your first club! So she helps me put it in a vice, we tape it so the shaft doesn't splinter, we measure twice, ruin a saw blade cutting through fiberglass, tape her a grip...by this time she isn't having as much fun as dad is but I'm keeping her in the game... we go back down stairs.. I line her up from about 2 feet away.. SHE DRAINS IT!!!
Boys, I've done some shit, my name can be found in the record books, I ****ing melted when she looked at me after it went in. I would have traded every trophy, every win, every girl after the game, all of it, to know my little girl was going to have that feeling even a few more times in her life.
Changing a diaper and basic childcare to me is a basic skill that people should learn long before they become parents. There is a lot of benefit to it. I think both men and women should learn it.
The problem is IMO is the only way to practice or learn is to have a child around to take care of and with the smaller families we have, not everyone gets that chance.
I was fortunate because I have a big extended family, 14 cousins on my dad's side and most of them were older than me and had kids before me, so I got some experience that way.
When our first child was born I showed my wife how to pick him up.
The problem is IMO is the only way to practice or learn is to have a child around to take care of and with the smaller families we have, not everyone gets that chance.
I was fortunate because I have a big extended family, 14 cousins on my dad's side and most of them were older than me and had kids before me, so I got some experience that way.
When our first child was born I showed my wife how to pick him up.
Any father who can’t change a diaper is a huge piece of shit.
I’m sure the millennials agree and the crusties will get defensive. But it’s 110% true.
Wait… is Zuv’n’me her name?Had to stop and start sorry*
Being a parent is crazy, I have many accomplishments that I'm quite proud of, her victories Trump mine with zero effort.
I'm going to go softie on you before I drive her to day care.
The week before last I pulled my golf back out and started getting ready for a trip. She rode in the cart last year and hung out but she is almost 3 now and... she has her dad's independence 😃. So I'm scrubbing my clubs ect and start working on some basic putting drills on a mat. She wants to do it.
( got home)
Alright, dad's mallet, to big, no worries, mom's putter, better, but still too big. Aha! I've got an old hybrid in the garage i haven't used for years. Zuv'n'me you are getting your first club! So she helps me put it in a vice, we tape it so the shaft doesn't splinter, we measure twice, ruin a saw blade cutting through fiberglass, tape her a grip...by this time she isn't having as much fun as dad is but I'm keeping her in the game... we go back down stairs.. I line her up from about 2 feet away.. SHE DRAINS IT!!!
Boys, I've done some shit, my name can be found in the record books, I ****ing melted when she looked at me after it went in. I would have traded every trophy, every win, every girl after the game, all of it, to know my little girl was going to have that feeling even a few more times in her life.
Changing a diaper is like, a 1 on the 1-100 child care difficulty scale.
They threw out some stat in the mandatory child care class that you'll go through about 12,000 diapers per child.
For 43% of boomers to never change a diaper is actually f*cking hilarious.
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HB Heisman
Because someone was writing those headlines and it wasn't just Boomers.Why did you lump gen X in with boomers? Gen X gets no respect I tell ya.
I wondered if someone might ask.
That's my name her for, Only my name, it isn't even a word as much as a continuation of sound.
It started when she was a baby. I would call her "my love" and then eventually she responded. Then I transitioned to the game of "you can't love me cuz I love you" then our game became "zuv'n'me" vs "zuv'-n-you"
Now, that is kind of a sacred name. She can be in the middle of a full on breakdown, sHTF moment and if I calmly say "zuv-n-me" she knows I'm not about to speak AT her I want to talk WITH her.
Her god given name is a family name, she goes by Charlie to most.
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Gen x?Why did you lump gen X in with boomers? Gen X gets no respect I tell ya.
Well I'm not sure I could paint with that broad a brush. I'm not sure if my dad ever changed a diaper. But I do know my dad for my entire childhood left for work before I got up for school in the morning and came home about an hour before I went to bed. 9 times out of 10 on the weekend he was busy working on something either in our house or someone else's. Sometimes I had to help which I hated, so I didn't really develop a lot of positive feelings about him from that.
So there was this weird dynamic that my father lived in our house and my parents were married my entire childhood. But I didn't feel like I ever really got to know him til I was an adult.
So I don't think he was a POS for that. But I don't think it was a good thing that I didn't really get to know him til I was in my 20's.
To be fair my dad probably has an adult version of ADHD, he has the ability to sit down and maybe watch one movie. He could never sit down an watch a full football game, I watched football with my mom. He's "retired" but that only means he built a carpentry shop attached to his garage and spends 50 to 60 hours a week building stuff that he sells on Etsy to friends and to locals who found out about him through word of mouth.
But yeah I think if you arn't taking an active part in the child care, your child might think of you as a stranger who sleeps in their house. That's not a good thing.
Pro tips for Dads:
Athletic shorts in the shower. When it is your night to do the bath, put a pair of dark Athletic shorts in the shower and let the water get warm. When you put them on they are warm, the fellas know, and you can bath your child without any weirdness.
Athletic shorts in the shower. When it is your night to do the bath, put a pair of dark Athletic shorts in the shower and let the water get warm. When you put them on they are warm, the fellas know, and you can bath your child without any weirdness.
Just read a story the other day about a father who said he spent 3-4 evenings and every other weekend with his grandparents while his boomer parents were off having fun. He enjoyed having a relationship with his grandparents.
He now has kids and wants them to have a close relationship as well. His parents live close, but will barely even visit and have refused to babysit even for an hour or two because “that’s not their job.”
Comments were flooded with similar stories. It’s not all boomers, but many of them take and take and take and never give.
My dad couldn't spend a lot of time with me because he was working to provide for 10 kids. But he was a great dad. My mom taught me how to shoot foul shots, run the give and go, play pinochle and Gin, took us all to our practices, etc.
When I played outside, it was Lord of the Flies. On any random summer day, me and my friends would jump in a creek and follow it all day to see where it lead just to make it back in time for baseball practice or dinner or whatever. We'd take our bikes and "try to get lost" for hours. We'd find any patch of grass we could and play football, whiffle ball and if it was an open lot, stickball and basketball in any playground court. If we found woods, we'd play capture the flag, war or whatever else we could to throw mudballs at each other...and if it was a snow day...holy hell, the shit we'd get into. That was my entire life from 1981-1991.
My kids can't believe this is how it was because they've literally done none of that, and I'm the dad who spends tons of time with them (including coaching them now), and somehow are doing great. A million ways to skin a cat, I guess.
When I played outside, it was Lord of the Flies. On any random summer day, me and my friends would jump in a creek and follow it all day to see where it lead just to make it back in time for baseball practice or dinner or whatever. We'd take our bikes and "try to get lost" for hours. We'd find any patch of grass we could and play football, whiffle ball and if it was an open lot, stickball and basketball in any playground court. If we found woods, we'd play capture the flag, war or whatever else we could to throw mudballs at each other...and if it was a snow day...holy hell, the shit we'd get into. That was my entire life from 1981-1991.
My kids can't believe this is how it was because they've literally done none of that, and I'm the dad who spends tons of time with them (including coaching them now), and somehow are doing great. A million ways to skin a cat, I guess.
We have a little of that in our home. She would never leave my parents if they had their way. My wife's parents have seen their 2.5 year old granddaughter less than 5 times. It just isn't a priority for them.
* to be fair, they also live in South Carolina so that needs some consideration.
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.....why not just reach over the side of the tub like a normal person?
I've never changed into bathing gear to put my kid in the tub.
Mom gives "tubbies," I give showers. Much more efficient.
*rereading my OP is can see where the confusion came in.
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I did most of the bathing and cooking, enjoyed playing with my kids, not a great dad but a good one, but I nearly got my head taken off one time talking to a female friend and jokingly said that I was babysitting because my wife was out of town. She made it very clear that I was parenting.
Stuff like this irritates me. Just a complete lack of self awareness and willingness to pay it forward. They got theirs, the hell with anyone else. And think of the message you’re sending to your kids AND grandkids. Urgh.
I have friends whose kids barely know their grandparents, because they just can’t be bothered to drive to a game, or let mom & dad have a date night. I feel so bad for them.
That being said, my parents rock. They live 2 hours away and do whatever they can to help; but their parents were really active with me and my siblings, so they had a good template to follow.
