Not freaks. There’s a big world out there, Hoosier. Lots and lots of different types of functioning and sustainable relationships.
So apparently my brother and SIL are swingers
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This board is a microcosm of American society. @Moral is telling us that swinging is fine behavior, and @LuciousBDragon is one of the few that recognizes the presence and value of Ultimate Truth.
Carry on.
Carry on.
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Because you took sex ed out of the schools while telling us you and your church could do it better. Hasn’t quite worked out the way we were told it would, has it?
You just let us be the judge of that
Has it been confirmed/verified that Hoosier's brother & sil are actually swingers? Or is it all going off of a tictoc vid that someone saw?
Life is too short to be upset over something like this. Last summer on vacation, my (no pic) wife and I were talking to a couple at the pool (socially distanced of course). They let us know that they were swingers. We told them no thanks, which they respected. Otherwise, they seemed like decent people. We had a big laugh about it later.
Life is too short to be upset over something like this. Last summer on vacation, my (no pic) wife and I were talking to a couple at the pool (socially distanced of course). They let us know that they were swingers. We told them no thanks, which they respected. Otherwise, they seemed like decent people. We had a big laugh about it later.
I can't speak for anyone else here, but I personally cannot wait for chapter 2.
We are 99.9% sure our neighbors across the street are swingers. Someone stumbled across a CL ad they placed for “like minded individuals” to be friends with and some of the stuff they post on FB is risqué. My brother who went to HS with the female pretty much confirmed it when we voiced our suspicions. She’s been through 2 divorces and he 1. Neither are overly attractive, but they aren’t repulsive either. A bit white trashy. Probably a 3 or 4 Iowa rating. They continually invite us to bonfires, parties, hot tub parties, Vegas trips, etc. We always give them a polite maybe, but always have an excuse to miss the event.
The latest invitation that seems odd is the female inviting my wife to attend her sister’s bachelorette party. Got a text practically begging her to come and that it would mean the world to her. Seems odd since we have never done a single thing with this couple over the 6 years we’ve lived here. I’m trying to talk my wife into it just so she can report back. We live in small town rural Iowa so I’m not worried about a Dancing Bear type of party.
Sad part of this story. One of the couples they are overly friendly with (odd FB posts), the male committed suicide about a year ago. Out of the blue. No history of depression and no outward signs. We wonder if there was a connection. The wife of the suicide victim seems to have gotten over his death with relative ease and appears to be right back in whatever lifestyle they are all leading.
We really don’t care what they do. We think it’s funny, laugh and gossip about it. Mostly it’s, OMG, our neighbors are swingers! To each their own. It’s just not for us and we don’t want to put ourselves out there for anyone to think it would be.
The latest invitation that seems odd is the female inviting my wife to attend her sister’s bachelorette party. Got a text practically begging her to come and that it would mean the world to her. Seems odd since we have never done a single thing with this couple over the 6 years we’ve lived here. I’m trying to talk my wife into it just so she can report back. We live in small town rural Iowa so I’m not worried about a Dancing Bear type of party.
Sad part of this story. One of the couples they are overly friendly with (odd FB posts), the male committed suicide about a year ago. Out of the blue. No history of depression and no outward signs. We wonder if there was a connection. The wife of the suicide victim seems to have gotten over his death with relative ease and appears to be right back in whatever lifestyle they are all leading.
We really don’t care what they do. We think it’s funny, laugh and gossip about it. Mostly it’s, OMG, our neighbors are swingers! To each their own. It’s just not for us and we don’t want to put ourselves out there for anyone to think it would be.
Yeah The great Kevin Bacon sorted this out a long time ago didn’t he? “Footloose “It's tik tok. Isn't that dancing? So they like to dance the swing. It's a rather old style than what I am guessing most do on tik tok. Not sure why you and the wife have a problem with dancing.
This sounds eerily similar to what just happened in the community I am in.
Pics for crying out loud. Let us decide.
Get them some front-porch pineapple decor for the next birthday/holiday.
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For those thinking permissive sexuality leads to societal problems compare two countries: The Netherlands with a very open attitude towards sex and the United States.
Divorce rate: US 2.9/1000 vs. Netherlands of 1.8/1000
Suicide: US 23.7/100K vs Netherlands 9.6/100K
Single parent household: US 23% vs Netherlands 16%
Instead of railing against the evils of extramarital sex, maybe we should spend more energy on birth control, family planning and sexual education/awareness.
Divorce rate
Suicide rate
Single parent rate
Divorce rate: US 2.9/1000 vs. Netherlands of 1.8/1000
Suicide: US 23.7/100K vs Netherlands 9.6/100K
Single parent household: US 23% vs Netherlands 16%
Instead of railing against the evils of extramarital sex, maybe we should spend more energy on birth control, family planning and sexual education/awareness.
Divorce rate
Suicide rate
Single parent rate
You could probably just have the guy if you didn’t want the female part of the package.
Ummm.... No. I don't go that way, though my co-worker does. NTTAWWI
As someone who has been in and out of the lifestyle for years I can definitively say the following to dispel a few misconceptions.
1) You would be surprised as to who is involved, from Doctors all the way down to School Janitors.
2) No, not everyone in the LS are solid 10s but there are far more attractive people than most would imagine. On the flip side there are some that look like they fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch falling down as well. However, that's the wonderful thing about it that you choose who you want to play with.
3) Events aren't complete debauchery, in fact many of them, including a local club, are very laid back with people mostly just drinking and socializing.
4) Most of the people in the LS are really good people. Many lasting friendships are made, even if no sex is ever involved.
5) Like anything in life, it's not a perfect world either. Feelings can be hurt, relationships can fall apart if communication is not key.
Just a few things to ponder for those interested.
1) You would be surprised as to who is involved, from Doctors all the way down to School Janitors.
2) No, not everyone in the LS are solid 10s but there are far more attractive people than most would imagine. On the flip side there are some that look like they fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch falling down as well. However, that's the wonderful thing about it that you choose who you want to play with.
3) Events aren't complete debauchery, in fact many of them, including a local club, are very laid back with people mostly just drinking and socializing.
4) Most of the people in the LS are really good people. Many lasting friendships are made, even if no sex is ever involved.
5) Like anything in life, it's not a perfect world either. Feelings can be hurt, relationships can fall apart if communication is not key.
Just a few things to ponder for those interested.
This is off of videos that they posted on their tik tok where they are apparently talking about being swingers. I havn't seen them personally but I trust the sources.
Added information apparently my brother cheated on his wife which caused the marital acrimony and this was apparently the solution
Umm last I heard sex ed was in the public schools.
I'm not suggesting the church teach sex ed either. Abstinence only education isn't going to work when the problem is primarily cultural.
I don't condone cheating. Breaking trust seems to me to be a bigger issue than swinging.
I don't either.
But I don't think swinging is the solution to their marital problems. I think it just makes things worse. It maybe makes them feel better about things for a while but I think there is a limit in how long that lasts.
For the record, I don't think swingers actually think this either. From my very limited interactions with people who are into that in order for it to work the marriage has to be strong, both parties must be doing it because they want to and not to make the other happy, and there has to be trust. So you are absolutely correct that if he cheated and this was the way they were going to solve it, it will blow up spectacularly.
I admit I was brought up in a different time and very different cultural and religious framework, but I can assure you that neither I nor my late husband could have participated in swinging or switches or whatever you want to call it.
If I had seen him get it on with another woman there would be YUUUUGGGE trouble. Especially if he looked like he was enjoying himself. 😡 And he was very possessive.
I almost think an affair that I never knew about would be preferable.
If I had seen him get it on with another woman there would be YUUUUGGGE trouble. Especially if he looked like he was enjoying himself. 😡 And he was very possessive.
I almost think an affair that I never knew about would be preferable.
I don't ever want to be with anyone but Mrs. Herk. But she don't wanna be with ANYBODY!!!! ☹️
When a woman goes through menopause, she loses all estrogen, her bits dry up and so does her desire. But estrogen suppositories definitely help, and so can a procedure with a rejuvenation device called the Mona Lisa.
Good luck! 😉
Your #5 applied to a friend of mine. He thought it might be fun for him and his girlfriend. To make a long story short. He was having a good time until he saw his girlfriend having a great time. He made a big scene they got kicked out and told never to return and girlfriend left him.
I think you are making some big assumptions as to causation.
Seems like that would be a risk for guys who don't have sufficient equipment, or know how to use their equipment, or both. If the wife or girlfriend is eager to go back, well that would have to make a guy wonder why...
Reminds me of a Friend's episode (except that his wife was into girls - not dudes with better packages):
Ross: Seriously, our sex life. I was thinking maybe, I don't know, we could try some new things, you know, for fun.
Carol: Like what?
Ross: Well, I don't know. What if we were to tie each other up? [coughs] Um, some people eat stuff off one another. Yeah. You know, we could try dirty talk. [nervous laugh] We could have a threesome.
Carol: I love that idea!
Yeah, it's never a choice a couple should make without constant discussion before they ever attempt it. Women own the power in the LS, guys are kind of secondary. Lots of guys think it sounds fun in theory until their woman starts getting a lot of attention, then it can become not as much fun.
