I talked about my buddy on here recently. One of my best friends of 45 years, lived in California up until a few weeks ago. He had been there over 25 years and out of work the past eight citing "illegals" stealing all of his construction work. In the meantime, he ballooned to 400 lbs. He ranted on Facebook daily about the liberals destroying America while living in the liberal mecca of the U.S. He alienated his family and friends and ultimately, his wife. He called me an asshole, a ****** and a liberal douche, despite our friendship and many times when I have helped him. He was awful to his family and other friends on social media with accusations of abuse and other things.
A few weeks ago, he was homeless. The wife (no pic) finally booted him. I sent him some money and got him to Colorado closer to his son with whom he had lost touch. He has since gotten a job as a security guard and has rekindled his relationship with his son that will take some time to mend. He is slowly starting again.
I am curious how any of you have handled similar situations. It got so bad at one point that I thought he was going to show up at my house and hurt me or my family. He is a veteran so I am trying to explore resources that may be available for him. I would not be completely honest if I didn't admit that my first instinct was (1) ignore him and/or (2) tell him to fvck off.
Any advice would be appreciated. At this point, he has me and his son. At his core, he is a good man, but damaged. I want the best for him. I want him to heal and hopefully become self aware enough to realize his own role in the damage that has been done. I feel like I am so busy with family, work and life already, I just don't know if my help is enough.
A few weeks ago, he was homeless. The wife (no pic) finally booted him. I sent him some money and got him to Colorado closer to his son with whom he had lost touch. He has since gotten a job as a security guard and has rekindled his relationship with his son that will take some time to mend. He is slowly starting again.
I am curious how any of you have handled similar situations. It got so bad at one point that I thought he was going to show up at my house and hurt me or my family. He is a veteran so I am trying to explore resources that may be available for him. I would not be completely honest if I didn't admit that my first instinct was (1) ignore him and/or (2) tell him to fvck off.
Any advice would be appreciated. At this point, he has me and his son. At his core, he is a good man, but damaged. I want the best for him. I want him to heal and hopefully become self aware enough to realize his own role in the damage that has been done. I feel like I am so busy with family, work and life already, I just don't know if my help is enough.