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Using names and pronouns is simply kindness

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Score another win for jerks at the Iowa Statehouse.



This time, it’s a bill moving through the Iowa Senate that would bar school districts from punishing teachers, staff or students for refusing to use a student’s preferred pronouns and names. It cleared a subcommittee last week.


Lawmakers never seem to run out of ideas for kicking trans kids and other students who don’t conform to Republicans’ rigid vision of “normal” The Trump administration is working overtime to demonize trans Americans.




Backers contend their speech rights are violated by compelled speech forced on them by school boards. I’m generally sympathetic to arguments for free speech.


But not everyone agrees.


“Teachers should be reprimanded if they cannot do their job with fidelity by protecting and treating all people in their classroom with dignity, period,” state Sen. Molly Donahue, D-Cedar Rapids, a longtime educator and behavioral specialist, said during the subcommittee hearing.


Another good point.





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But the most important question in all of this is why do we even need rules and punishments? Is it so difficult to just accept kids’ preferences? Maybe avoid embarrassing them, singling them out and making them some sort of example.


After being rebuked, these kids will sit in class, isolated, marginalized and scared of what might happen next. To them, this is one more attempt to wipe them from existence. They’re being attacked from all directions.


Does the bill create a learning environment where trans kids can excel? Nope. What if parents want the school to use preferred pronouns and names? Sorry, parents’ rights aren’t for you.


So, you’ve added to another human being’s difficulties and struggles by making it all about you and your beliefs. That’s pretty jerkish.


But this is, after all, a golden age of jerkism. Everywhere you look, there are jerks.


The president and vice president are jerks, just ask Haitian immigrants and women who own cats. Defense Sec. Pete Hegseth is a drunken jerk. Robert F. Kennedy Jr is a jerk who once claimed a journalist’s kid probably got leukemia because he and his wife got him fully vaccinated. Elon Musk is the world’s richest jerk.


So, jerks run America.


And I’ve heard many lawmaking jerks claim this tiny group of transgender people are going to invade bathrooms, annihilate women’s sports and destroy American society. None of this stands up under scrutiny, but it makes for damn good politics.


Oddly, they never mention the fact that gender identity has been in Iowa’s Civil Rights Code for going on 18 years. Surely, the sky will fall any minute now.


This ugly political battle is spilling into classrooms. Some teachers apparently believe using a kid’s preferred pronoun and name is a tacit endorsement of some sort of transgender agenda. It is not.


It’s just a gesture of kindness, a small courtesy and a dose of decency to make their day a little less scary. Empathy. I know, it’s now a dirty word.


No one is asking you to sell your soul. Just don’t pile on a kid who is making a very simple request. Don’t be another problem for kids who need support.


And most of all, don’t be a jerk.

 
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Forcing someone to call an apple a pear is about power and control, not kindness.
 
Once again I will say this. The pronoun thing is so goddamned stupid because they are using THIRD person pronouns. Pronouns that are used mostly when the person isn’t even there. The correct pronoun to use when talking to someone is “YOU”.

Now if you want me to call you “he/him” fine I won’t argue. But I’m only gonna use it when you’re not there so why do you give a shit? Otherwise I’m more likely to use your actual name when talking about you.

Not to mention, why the hell are non-trans people using them? Why on earth would I need to tell someone that I’m a male in an email or social media page with my male name on it?
 
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Once again I will say this. The pronoun thing is so goddamned stupid because they are using THIRD person pronouns. Pronouns that are used mostly when the person isn’t even there. The correct pronoun to use when talking to someone is “YOU”.

Now if you want me to call you “he/him” fine I won’t argue. But I’m only gonna use it when you’re not there so why don’t give a shit? Otherwise I’m more likely to use your actual name when talking about you.

Not to mention, why the hell are non-trans people using them? Why on earth would I need to tell someone that I’m a male in an email or social media page with my male name on it?

I hate to tell you, but Sandy isn't as masculine as you think
 
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Once again I will say this. The pronoun thing is so goddamned stupid because they are using THIRD person pronouns. Pronouns that are used mostly when the person isn’t even there. The correct pronoun to use when talking to someone is “YOU”. Now if you want me to call you “he/him” fine I won’t argue. But I’m only gonna use it when you’re not there so why don’t give a shit? Otherwise I’m more likely to use your actual name when talking about you.

I've made the same argument,.. Why would anyone care what I might call them when they aren't even present?
 
Once again I will say this. The pronoun thing is so goddamned stupid because they are using THIRD person pronouns. Pronouns that are used mostly when the person isn’t even there. The correct pronoun to use when talking to someone is “YOU”.

Now if you want me to call you “he/him” fine I won’t argue. But I’m only gonna use it when you’re not there so why don’t give a shit? Otherwise I’m more likely to use your actual name when talking about you.

Not to mention, why the hell are non-trans people using them? Why on earth would I need to tell someone that I’m a male in an email or social media page with my male name on it?
You mean you don’t start emails with hello he/him?
I suppose you’re going to tell me you say Hello Jim instead.
The disrespect you show towards him. 🤣
 
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Score another win for jerks at the Iowa Statehouse.



This time, it’s a bill moving through the Iowa Senate that would bar school districts from punishing teachers, staff or students for refusing to use a student’s preferred pronouns and names. It cleared a subcommittee last week.


Lawmakers never seem to run out of ideas for kicking trans kids and other students who don’t conform to Republicans’ rigid vision of “normal” The Trump administration is working overtime to demonize trans Americans.




Backers contend their speech rights are violated by compelled speech forced on them by school boards. I’m generally sympathetic to arguments for free speech.


But not everyone agrees.


“Teachers should be reprimanded if they cannot do their job with fidelity by protecting and treating all people in their classroom with dignity, period,” state Sen. Molly Donahue, D-Cedar Rapids, a longtime educator and behavioral specialist, said during the subcommittee hearing.


Another good point.





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But the most important question in all of this is why do we even need rules and punishments? Is it so difficult to just accept kids’ preferences? Maybe avoid embarrassing them, singling them out and making them some sort of example.


After being rebuked, these kids will sit in class, isolated, marginalized and scared of what might happen next. To them, this is one more attempt to wipe them from existence. They’re being attacked from all directions.


Does the bill create a learning environment where trans kids can excel? Nope. What if parents want the school to use preferred pronouns and names? Sorry, parents’ rights aren’t for you.


So, you’ve added to another human being’s difficulties and struggles by making it all about you and your beliefs. That’s pretty jerkish.


But this is, after all, a golden age of jerkism. Everywhere you look, there are jerks.


The president and vice president are jerks, just ask Haitian immigrants and women who own cats. Defense Sec. Pete Hegseth is a drunken jerk. Robert F. Kennedy Jr is a jerk who once claimed a journalist’s kid probably got leukemia because he and his wife got him fully vaccinated. Elon Musk is the world’s richest jerk.


So, jerks run America.


And I’ve heard many lawmaking jerks claim this tiny group of transgender people are going to invade bathrooms, annihilate women’s sports and destroy American society. None of this stands up under scrutiny, but it makes for damn good politics.


Oddly, they never mention the fact that gender identity has been in Iowa’s Civil Rights Code for going on 18 years. Surely, the sky will fall any minute now.


This ugly political battle is spilling into classrooms. Some teachers apparently believe using a kid’s preferred pronoun and name is a tacit endorsement of some sort of transgender agenda. It is not.


It’s just a gesture of kindness, a small courtesy and a dose of decency to make their day a little less scary. Empathy. I know, it’s now a dirty word.


No one is asking you to sell your soul. Just don’t pile on a kid who is making a very simple request. Don’t be another problem for kids who need support.


And most of all, don’t be a jerk.

Keep digging. America isn't with you on this. I bet it's a top 10 reason Trump got elected, and it's not going to change. Make trans insanity any part of your Dem platform in 2028, and you'll likely lose again.
 
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Forcing someone to call an apple a pear is about power and control, not kindness.
No one is forcing you. It’s polite to call people what they prefer to be called. It’s a courtesy you can use that you needn’t believe to use, like saying The Honorable Ted Cruz.
 
I think its a jerky thing to do to copy and paste entire articles, with the formatting all wonky and ADVERTISEMENT all over the middle. Lazy ****er.
 
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