The South did not start the war. Fort Sumter is in the South and the Union had no right to be there doing what they were. If you invade my house and I shoot at you, you are still the invader.
And regardless of wether you support the right to secede, both the revolutionary and civil wars are identical in purpose. You cannot say honestly that they were different. If you truly believe people should tuck tail and run rather than protect their land, then you must think America was wrong to revolt against the British.
Finally, read my posts. Lincoln was a tyrant because of his actions during the war. He authorized atrocities against both the Confederacy and the Union. He ignored both the Constitution and international agreements. He should not have started the war, but even if you support the war in cause, you cannot ignore his illegal and immoral actions during the war. He was every bit as bad as the "evil dictators" we try to remove in modern times. He suspended both Habeas corpus and the first amendment. Sending not only Southerners, but also Northerners who simply disagreed with him to concentration camps. He shut down Northern newspapers that criticized him and did all of this despite lacking authority and being admonished by both Congress and the SCOTUS.
The man was quite simply the worst tyrant in American history.