I'd like to thank those dad's who effed up.
What are/were your top priorities as a parent in terms of raising your children?
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I'd like to thank those dad's who effed up.
Be polite. Be nice to everyone, even if you don't want to.
Be independent. Think for yourselves, not what your friends think. Challenge the assumptions.
Have fun always, but not at someone else's expense.
Be independent. Think for yourselves, not what your friends think. Challenge the assumptions.
Have fun always, but not at someone else's expense.
I raised my (no pics) girls to think independently, work hard, and pursue their passions. They both never let their high school GPAs drop bellow a 3.9 and my oldest just transferred into UC Berkeley on an academic scholarship. They can also both defend themselves with Muay Thai, they hate MAGA, and can out fish most grown men I know...those were also very important.
Be kind, just and gracious
Work hard and be humble
Protect the vulnerable
Don’t be an asshole
Work hard and be humble
Protect the vulnerable
Don’t be an asshole
1. trust in god
2. do your best at everything
3. hate the cyclones
2. do your best at everything
3. hate the cyclones
1. Faith
2. Respect everyone
3. Independence
4. Marry well
Sent to private Christian school for a reason!
Right now I'm trying to teach the ****ing idiot to stop driving like a moron or he's going to get killed.
Ditto my man. And add, be inclusive. My 7 yo daughter is reaching the age where some girls in her class are already getting cliquey. She is a friend to all and we always try to reinforce the importance of stepping up and including everyone on the playground, in social settings, etc. I mean I’m realistic and know eventually kids naturally form their own groups, but dammit not just yet! Stay innocent!
As someone who has worked with elementary age kids for almost 30 years, if you don’t have ‘limit social media’ on your list if you have young ones, it needs to be there. 4 out 5 days now at my job I deal with issues stemming from social media. The issues are real and dangerous.
I think the one thing I hoped for, which is sort of latent in several of your items, is courage. Courage is everything.
(I got lucky and some other stuff stuck with them as well.)
Go goalie or go home. Best part is, as the parent, no one will try to sit with you at games b
Honestly when I started reading this I thought you were going down the Steve Martin path…
This is a pretty good list. I also want my kids to be able to make good decisions. Allow them to make mistakes because mistakes when they are young are usually far less consequential than mistakes with bad decisions later in life. I think your list fits right in with that.
2. How to handle oneself at abortion parties.
Number 3 is super important, we’ve also put Nebraska on the hate list.
It’s been awhile ago since they were in public school, but I remember the pride I felt when my boys were described as “a friend to everyone” at conferences or in grade reports. It reinforced to me that we were doing at least something right while raising them.
Mostly to make sure they never exist. Mission accomplished, I think. Should have never done a 23andme though, that was a risk.
Truer words have never been written. It is like license to be an idiot, not a license to drive
Funny - hate the hurricanes and gators AND, not support those colors together. My kids will share M&Ms, but never give green/orange or blue/orange, always have to mx it up.
Reading. Read as much as you want and what you want.
Be kind (this was by default for them, must have gotten it from their mom).
Try hard, don't quit.
Sports are great, if you try hard, but it isn't life, it is a part of life.
I need to trust what they say, so don't lie (for now, selective lying will come later as a tool)
How to speak in public and to strangers, my eldest is horribly shy and has a lot of anxiety about this.
Be kind
Work hard
The worlds a big place- Go explore it. Meet people different from you.
Remember your word- They can take your job, they can take your money, they can even take your life, but they can never take your word. It's the one thing that's free in life but can cost you the most when you go back on it.
Work hard
The worlds a big place- Go explore it. Meet people different from you.
Remember your word- They can take your job, they can take your money, they can even take your life, but they can never take your word. It's the one thing that's free in life but can cost you the most when you go back on it.
Oh boy...so much to work with there-especially on this board...
We moved a good bit and my son went to five schools, seven if you count preschool, and my no pic younger daughter went to five, so we had no choice but to encourage them to be open to new experiences and not afraid to meet new people.
The main value we believed in was just the basic golden rule of treating others the way you would want others to treat you. That and any other value is best instilled in your kids by parental example.
I admit there were the teenage days when yours truly swore out loud that “somebody in this house might get murdered today and it won’t be ME”
They had some uh, adventurous times but they’re both grownup good humans who respect other humans and are smart, caring, and good conservatives. Love them both to the moon and back.
The main value we believed in was just the basic golden rule of treating others the way you would want others to treat you. That and any other value is best instilled in your kids by parental example.
I admit there were the teenage days when yours truly swore out loud that “somebody in this house might get murdered today and it won’t be ME”
They had some uh, adventurous times but they’re both grownup good humans who respect other humans and are smart, caring, and good conservatives. Love them both to the moon and back.
Good list OP!
I'm glad that my daughter graduated from high school in 2000 and not 2024. The world really changed a lot in those 24 years.
I'm glad that my daughter graduated from high school in 2000 and not 2024. The world really changed a lot in those 24 years.
Obviously we all see the changes in that time frame, so we each have our own perspectives. But I have observed things throughout the judicial system; as well school as school board decorum. Parties, attorneys, worst of all (because I respect them) judges have changed demeanors.
I'm not saying the good 'ole boys system was good. But if you can't give respect to your adversary, the system falls a part.
My wife is an elementary principal. Nearly 90% (my estimates not hers) has to do with teachers sabotaging things when change is warranted; parents that want to blame all their kids faults on the school; and kids that have never learned what accountability looks like. My better half is a genius when it comes to data and how it can be used. A lot of teachers want to blame the data on (I got all the naughty students)
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