I know this is an Iowa board but...
I have read on here BoJo goes whatever weight Ringer doesn't with nobody disputing it. Mention that other wrestlers may factor in current Hawks or future Hawks going different weights and "we take on all challengers" Which is ironic considering how many think Grothus should bow out early in trying to go his chosen weight class.
The coaches will try to put the kids in their best position to succeed or they're doing them a disservice.
Being at the weight you're most competitive at is not the equivalent of ducking anyone.
I don't know enough about Ohio State's returning firepower without a little research, but Jordan is good enough presumably to go wherever he wants. Whether that is good for Ohio State is another story. Grothus going to his "chosen" weight on paper doesn't look good for him (IMO), and for damn sure not good for Iowa (IMO).
I do believe it's the right thing to do to get each kid in their best position to succeed, but at the same time the singlet says Iowa. That means sacrificing for the greater good of a team at times, any sport, and that goes to everyone involved in it, IMO. Granted, it's a more difficult dynamic in a weight controlled environment like wrestling, but its also not like they're asking these kids to give up their 1st born child. I think most Iowa fans would have some empathy for a guy like Matt McDonough that probably had one heck of a time holding his weight, and he most likely could have gone up to 133 at any time and won that spot too. It was probably his choice to do so as well, and he probably thought he'd have more success staying at 125. Either way, it had to be damn difficult for him I would think. Maybe it was a combo of Matt and Brands making that decision. I don't know.
And if you have enough situations where guys aren't producing or your recruiting "plan" didn't work out and the weights become muddled, as a Coach you'll be out of a job pretty quickly if 1/2 your best wrestlers are sitting on the bench behind better guys at their "comfortable" weight, or if they're wrestling up a weight where they will often get manhandled by those that fit the weight class.
As a Father, of course you want what's best for your Son (not you personally mind you - I'm talking everyone). At the end of the day he's still part of a team, and when he gets out in the "real world", he'll be part of a team most likely when he goes into whatever endeavor he chooses. And there will be times like most of us where you have to make hard choices and sacrifices, or someone with the "power" will make them for you.
I just think the waters are a little muddy on what "exactly" is the right thing to do in these situations. Like most things in life, it's just not that simple, IMO.