By default, do you see the good in people?

[Hawki97]

I do not. On a scale of 1 (pond scum) to 10 (me), everyone I meet starts around a 3 and has a very small window to prove themselves worthy. Exhibit certain behaviors or allegiances and you get the immediate boot with no chance to return. This methodology has proven me well over the years as I'm surrounded by interesting people that I enjoy spending time with.

How about you? Do you generally see the good in people?

 

[Formerly Rockymtnole]

I used to.

So many people have disappointed me the last 10 years I no longer do.

 

[NorthEndzoneCrew]

I used to but at this point I have realized that I have no shared values with nearly 50% of this country…so no…now you have to earn it.

 

[Hawki97]

I used to.

So many people have disappointed me the last 10 years I no longer do.

Humans - by nature - are very disappointing to be sure.

 

[KFsdisciple]

Humans are not basically good. We are all born sinners.

 

[stickman80]

I used to believe there is some good in everyone.

Trump is pure evil....no room for anything good.

 

[Hawki97]

Humans are not basically good. We are all born sinners.

Not me. I've never sinned in my life.

 

[desihawk]

depends on whether person is virtual/on-phone or irl. former starts out at 100% scum expectation, latter at unbiased/neutral.

 

[alaskanseminole]

Not me. I've never sinned in my life.

 

[fsu1jreed]

I used to.

So many people have disappointed me the last 10 years I no longer do.

This.....now I realize that I was just naive

 

[jonesy5960]

I do not. On a scale of 1 (pond scum) to 10 (me), everyone I meet starts around a 3 and has a very small window to prove themselves worthy. Exhibit certain behaviors or allegiances and you get the immediate boot with no chance to return. This methodology has proven me well over the years as I'm surrounded by interesting people that I enjoy spending time with.

How about you? Do you generally see the good in people?

I try to see the good in most people. My friends are a very diverse group, many with strong opinions that often conflict with mine. I also weigh the fact that people are very much a product of the circumstances in which they grew up and live.

 

[ISUBryce]

Pretty much I do, yeah. I love people. But I’m almost always meeting people in situations where we have a common goal and that makes it pretty easy for me to enjoy being around them.

When I think about all of the people I interact with, there is really only one of them I legit don’t like very much. And that’s probably out of hundreds of people when you count kids’ sports parents, church people, neighbors, kids’ friends parents, people I play basketball with, people from work, my actual friends, etc.

 

[NDallasRuss]

No. Too many years of doing my job have taught me that it doesn't take a whole lot for a "good" person to do "bad" things.

I assume that people are not good. Some are better than others, or at least better at presenting themselves as "good".

This is the basic thing that explains why people commit fraud, and forms the basis for implementing controls in businesses:

 

[Hawki97]

It's true. In the biblical sense - never once. One must believe in the religous law before they could transgress against it. And I certainly wasn't born with it.

Now, if you extend the definition of sin to moral code derived from natural law - I'm a sinnahhhhhhh all day long broseph!

 

[alaskanseminole]

It's true. In the biblical sense - never once. One must believe in the religous law before they could transgress against it. And I certainly wasn't born with it.

Now, if you extend the definition of sin to moral code derived from natural law - I'm a sinnahhhhhhh all day long broseph!

 

[HawkeyeHitman]

I can get along with anyone as long as they don’t support Bernie Sanders, Che Guevara, The Squad, and Pol Pot.

 

[Huey Grey]

There's still good in nudes. So please send them.

 

[Scott559]

I can get along with anyone as long as they don’t support Bernie Sanders, Che Guevara, The Squad, and Pol Pot.

You really need some new material.

 

[Hawki97]

No. Too many years of doing my job have taught me that it doesn't take a whole lot for a "good" person to do "bad" things.

I assume that people are not good. Some are better than others, or at least better at presenting themselves as "good".

This is the basic thing that explains why people commit fraud, and forms the basis for implementing controls in businesses:

I've mentioned this before, but in a prior life I was exposed - at scale - to what people do when they think no one's looking. Think early internet backbone kind of scale. It's absolutely disgusting. People are awful.

 

[Scott559]

I do not. On a scale of 1 (pond scum) to 10 (me), everyone I meet starts around a 3 and has a very small window to prove themselves worthy. Exhibit certain behaviors or allegiances and you get the immediate boot with no chance to return. This methodology has proven me well over the years as I'm surrounded by interesting people that I enjoy spending time with.

How about you? Do you generally see the good in people?

 

[alaskanseminole]

I'm shallow

FIFY

 

[HawkinK.C.1]

I think people are good...... at manipulating other people....... which is why I don't trust them.

 

[HawCory]

Some people are good. Most aren't. This is true across all belief structures/political affiliations/upbringings/vocations/etc.

 

[goldmom]

I don’t necessarily look for either one. People are going to show you what they are all by themselves without you having to look for it.

 

[Finance85]

I'm known to be a positive person in general, with the exception of politicians and those working in a few other notorious professions.

I also don't like narcissists. Sometimes that trait is apparent immediately, and sometimes it's evident after I've given them the benefit of the doubt.

I had a discussion about this with a co-worker many years ago. He told me on a scale of -10 to 10, he starts people off at -5. He said people have to prove they are worthy. He's a brilliant guy, and generally nice guy. I tend to start people off between 2 and 5 on that scale. As with anything, there are appearance based biases.

 

[tumorboy]

Yes until they piss me off

 

[ConvenientParking]

I try to see the decent in most people, idk about good. These people start in the hole and must prove themselves worthy:
-Comedy podcast fans
-Baptists
-Calvinists
-Engineers and computer scientists

 

[Derekd3408]

Everyone starts out at a 10, but it can move quickly.

 

[Whiskeydeltadeltatango]

Everyone but the Dutch.

 

[bdcolt45er]

I like all people. Except those who post on message boards. Anyone who post on a message boards is evil and deserves to be eternally punished and tortured.

 

[hawkeyetraveler]

I extend the benefit of the doubt to everyone I meet. Everyone. So you basically start at a 10, but you can move very quickly down the scale. In our first 5 minutes I might re-anchor my judgement based on how you handle yourself. I found this has worked well for me as it means I don’t start off a conversation closed off. It has been helpful in both my professional and personal relationships.

 

[Hawki97]

As with anything, there are appearance based biases.

I'm super judgy. And do this big time.

 

[jonesy5960]

I've mentioned this before, but in a prior life I was exposed - at scale - to what people do when they think no one's looking. Think early internet backbone kind of scale. It's absolutely disgusting. People are awful.

In a prior life I was a butterfly. Everyone loves butterflies so I was always treated well. I don't even hold anything against the guy who was driving that Ford F150 whose grill sent me to the great beyond. I think it was an accident.

 

[Hawki97]

I don’t necessarily look for either one. People are going to show you what they are all by themselves without you having to look for it.

Some people can even surprise you after you've written them off. Like knowing what BRG is.

I still owe you seven more days. Hope you're having a wonderful day!

 

[Mayland]

If I’ve received no information about a person I meet, they’ll start at a 10 (using your scale). I’ll adjust as I get to know them. Basically presume innocent until proven guilty methodology.

 

[binsfeldcyhawk2]

How about you? Do you generally see the good in people?

I try to…

 

[Colonoscopy]

I don't really see anything. Who a person is unfolds over time.

I assume most people are decent because most are in my experience and statistics back this up.

 

[Capernum]

Nope, my job has made me acutely aware that most people will do just about anything to other people out of insecurity, narcissism, and a quest for more money.

 

[binsfeldcyhawk2]

Nope, my job has made me acutely aware that most people will do just about anything to other people out of insecurity, narcissism, and a quest for more money.

What’s your job?

 

[LuciousBDragon]

Now, if you extend the definition of sin to moral code derived from natural law

I’d like to hear more about this “natural law” you speak of!

What is its origin?
What makes it binding?
What variations exist?
How is it adjudicated?
What is its overall purpose?