I'm Putting My Nephew Back In Rehab Tomorrow...

[TennesseeWaltz1]

I wish I could say it was due to some sort of physical pain that led to his addiction...that would make it an easier road I think. His is in a deep emotional pain...and that is going to be the toughest thing to for him to deal with...that and a 3 year old daughter who will cry for her daddy.

 

[Derekd3408]

I wish I could say it was due to some sort of physical pain that led to his addiction...that would make it an easier road I think. His is a deep emotional pain...and that is going to be the toughest thing to for him to deal with...that and a 3 year old daughter who will cry for her daddy.

Same nephew that attends Bonnaroo? A lot of drugs get done there. As for the rehab, best of luck to him. Had a friend who needed 60 day treatment, 3 times to get clean. I've known quite a few people who have been taken over by meth (not that that's what your nephews on).

 

[TennesseeWaltz1]

Same nephew that attends Bonnaroo? A lot of drugs get done there. As for the rehab, best of luck to him. Had a friend who needed 60 day treatment, 3 times to get clean. I've known quite a few people who have been taken over by meth (not that that's what your nephews on).

Nope...different one. His daddy(my brother) died 5 years ago...he has been in a drug entailed downward spiral ever since...and thanks for the well wishes...he is pretty much close to death now if this doesn't help him.

 

[Derekd3408]

Nope...different one. His daddy(my brother) died 5 years ago...he has been in a drug entailed downward spiral ever since...and thanks for the well wishes...he is pretty much close to death now if this doesn't help him.

Seems most of the people who struggle with drugs have a traumatic event that caused the downwards spiral. Most have been abused physically, mentally, sexually or have suffered the loss of a close loved one. My wife watches the show "addicted" religiously. Seems most that have that sort of past really struggle with life again once out of rehab. I can't imagine the pain you must feel watching a loved one slowly kill themselves while feeling totally helpless. I can see why some people become enablers, feels like the only way you can help them and stay connected.

 

[TennesseeWaltz1]

Seems most of the people who struggle with drugs have a traumatic event that caused the downwards spiral. Most have been abused physically, mentally, sexually or have suffered the loss of a close loved one. My wife watches the show "addicted" religiously. Seems most that have that sort of past really struggle with life again once out of rehab. I can't imagine the pain you must feel watching a loved one slowly kill themselves while feeling totally helpless. I can see why some people become enablers, feels like the only way you can help them and stay connected.

You are right Derek. I have long suspected the kid had a chemical imbalance...he has had some issues with anger. His dad's death sent him over the cliff. Sad thing is he was such a good athlete but always seemed to be getting in trouble and not cutting it academically. My parents sent him to 2 private schools and both kicked him out...no doubt the brain chemistry issues or drugs...they will certainly alter your personality. I am afraid he has been enabled but only because of his daughter...you know we will all do anything when a young child is involved.

 

[torbee]

I wish I could say it was due to some sort of physical pain that led to his addiction...that would make it an easier road I think. His is in a deep emotional pain...and that is going to be the toughest thing to for him to deal with...that and a 3 year old daughter who will cry for her daddy.

It's probably all that hip hop he listens to!

 

[ParkerHawk]

Getting off the drugs is as simple as 3 days of mental toughness and some support from loved ones. The tough part is staying off, which is mostly figuring out what void the drugs were filling and finding something healthier to fill that void.

 

[Derekd3408]

Getting off the drugs is as simple as 3 days of mental toughness and some support from loved ones. The tough part is staying off, which is mostly figuring out what void the drugs were filling and finding something healthier to fill that void.

Unfortunately lack of mental toughness is why they are addicted. No reason to assume after 3 days they will all of a sudden find it. Most addicts need 30-60 days to remain clean and find a better perspective on life. Many need time out of harms way to fix the real problem, the problem that led to addiction.

 

[ParkerHawk]

Unfortunately lack of mental toughness is why they are addicted. No reason to assume after 3 days they will all of a sudden find it. Most addicts need 30-60 days to remain clean and find a better perspective on life. Many need time out of harms way to fix the real problem, the problem that led to addiction.

We might be saying the same things here, but it is not a lack of mental toughness. To be more specific, it is an inability to adapt to ones environment in a healthy manner. If you want to label that lack of mental toughness, OK

 

[TennesseeWaltz1]

We might be saying the same things here, but it is not a lack of mental toughness. To be more specific, it is an inability to adapt to ones environment in a healthy manner. If you want to label that lack of mental toughness, OK

They are going to need to address the problems that are causing the addiction...there is more to this than just getting hooked. People who abuse drugs and alcohol do it because they are in a deep state of depression and inner pain...I really believe it... and yes he isn't mentally tough either.

 

[jellyfish10]

Same nephew that attends Bonnaroo? A lot of drugs get done there. As for the rehab, best of luck to him. Had a friend who needed 60 day treatment, 3 times to get clean. I've known quite a few people who have been taken over by meth (not that that's what your nephews on).

I was at Bonnaroo or however the hell it's spelled in the early years. And ALL the drugs get done there. Never forget the dude in his mid-50's with a paper plate hanging around his neck that said simply "I need drugs." Summed it up pretty well. Carry on.

 

[KirbyHawk75]

I pray for the best. I really do. I have to say though, with my wife and I having trouble having kids, it always pains me when people have the blessing of kids, and cannot take care of them.

 

[TennesseeWaltz1]

I pray for the best. I really do. I have to say though, with my wife and I having trouble having kids, it always pains me when people have the blessing of kids, and cannot take care of them.

Amen...and thanks. He has got to get well for his daughter's sake. I don't want her to grow up and be ashamed of him because she absolutely loves him.

 

[HawkCapt1912]

I wish I could say it was due to some sort of physical pain that led to his addiction...that would make it an easier road I think. His is in a deep emotional pain...and that is going to be the toughest thing to for him to deal with...that and a 3 year old daughter who will cry for her daddy.

Best of luck to him. Unfortunately, he won't change unless he sees no other alternative. I got clean 26 years ago. If I can do it, pretty much anyone can.

 

[TennesseeWaltz1]

Best of luck to him. Unfortunately, he won't change unless he sees no other alternative. I got clean 26 years ago. If I can do it, pretty much anyone can.

You are very right about that...it's going to come down to coming clean or losing his family...and his life. Thanks for the well wishes bud...