At least as an almost millennial, I knew to wrap it up when I was with the OPs mom.
When did 'yeah' replace 'you're welcome'?
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I’d go a bit further and ask why it’s the customer who is saying thank you...
I agree. These responses don't bother me too much, but they really drive my wife crazy.
I’d go a bit further and ask why it’s the customer who is saying thank you...
They brought my Pho. It's common courtesy...
The sushi bar place is legit, all Asian. The Pho place is all Asian in the back but the slackers are in the front of the house. Sad...
I wonder if the pho in Iowa is as good as the sushi in Oklahoma? White employees at a pho restaurant? Weird.
I’m more irritated by people that don’t say thank you. I always open doors for women in public and most of them don’t even seem to realize an actual human being displayed an act of kindness. Men almost always say ‘thanks’. Women....head in the sky.
I’m more irritated by people that don’t say thank you. I always open doors for women in public and most of them don’t even seem to realize an actual human being displayed an act of kindness. Men almost always say ‘thanks’. Women....head in the sky.
Likelihood of response from me to a thank you:
You’re welcome 50%
No problem 40%
Don’t mention it 10%
Yeah 0%
You’re welcome 50%
No problem 40%
Don’t mention it 10%
Yeah 0%
So basically after you pounded OP's mom and said "thank you" all you got was a yep? I at least got a bag full of cookies to take home after my turn with her.
I don't know man, I just really wanted to say pho kit.
You need to mix in about 4% No worries. Maybe back down the You’re welcomes to 46%...
Seems like saying "of course" is even more arrogant.
"Thank you."
"Of course (you should be thanking me)."
It’s more “of course I am happy to have provided whatever I have provided and there’s absolutely no need to thank me, as it was my duty to provide it.”
I think the linguistic analysis provided earlier in the thread is spot on: older generations expect to be thanked for providing something, hence their wanting to “welcome” the other person’s acknowledgment, whereas younger generations view providing the same thing as an expectation and a matter of course, hence their seeing it as “no problem” whatsoever to provide it.
At least of course make sense. Like, of course I would do that for you. The whole feeling entitled for saying you’re welcome makes zero sense to me.
I have learned in life that whenever I need something from somebody, it helps grease the wheels of whatever we're talking about by making it easy for them, while also trying to make the entire experience at the very least satisfying for them and that I truly appreciate the effort. I'm not talking patronizing them. I'm talking respecting them while treating them as a person and not a nameless minion.
Please and thank you goes a long way towards that. Tone of voice goes a long way too - never vent your mood on them.
For example, in checkout lines I always try to make the checkout person laugh or smile if possible (you gotta think fast and be able to read their mood quickly to know what to hit them with) - but at the very least make the experience for them as painless as possible.
Having your debit card ready to go, knowing the prices of what you bought so you're not sticker shocked, no cell phone in the line ever...those types of things. I read name tags so when they say hello, I reply (for example) "hello, Carol".
I'm never, ever "THAT guy".
I do this everywhere I go, whomever I deal with, no matter the setting. I treat them like a person wants to be treated. It's not hard to do at all, it costs me zero effort and zero extra time. I simply try to give them that one moment a day that makes their entire day of drudgery worthwhile by employing the simplest of respect towards them.
I tend to do much of my grocery shopping and my prescriptions at the same store. Have for years, usually at the same times of the day. A menagerie of employees come and go. BUSY place, probably 2,000+ customers daily are in that store (probably being way too conservative on that estimate). But I do, in the maybe 40 times a year I'm there, run into the same employees over time.
Some of the people there actually know my name. One gal, who has been there for about 5 years and is now a manager, will see me there, stop what she's doing, and chat me up for a minute with a big ol' smile. All from those 3-4 times over a couple years when she was my checker where I treated her nicely.
I'm in that grocery store maybe tops 10 minutes each time, and interact with the employees maybe absolutely tops one minute each time. I get a repeat employee maybe at most 4-5 times a year. And a few of them actually know my name out of the tens of thousands of nameless faceless customers that walk through that door that they encounter.
Can't remember the last time I've gotten a "no problem" in return...anywhere. Convenience/hardware/grocery stores, restaurants, doctor's offices...doesn't matter.
Strange, I hold doors open all the time for women and always get a thanks or thank you. Maybe you like like a stalker or something.
So me saying "No problem" meaning I'm not doing anything special or I'm not going out of my way to help you. Is me being an arrogant little turd? I just don't get Boomers...
Someone said "thank you" in an email today towards me. First off, who the hell thanks the IT guy? So I was sitting there struggling to say "you're welcome" because I think it sounds smarmy to me. I ended up sending a "my pleasure" which I think sounds creepy, but I determined that I could have went with "glad to help" and regret that I didn't.
So naturally I bumped a thread from 2019 about it.
Coldest regards,
Moral
So naturally I bumped a thread from 2019 about it.
Coldest regards,
Moral
