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Americans are lonely and it’s killing them. How the US can combat this new epidemic.​

Adrianna Rodriguez, USA TODAY
Sun, December 24, 2023 at 4:09 AM CST·7 min read

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America has a new epidemic. It can’t be treated using traditional therapies even though it has debilitating and even deadly consequences.

The problem seeping in at the corners of our communities is loneliness and U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy is hoping to generate awareness and offer remedies before it claims more lives.
“Most of us probably think of loneliness as just a bad feeling,” he told USA TODAY. “It turns out that loneliness has far greater implications for our health when we struggle with a sense of social disconnection, being lonely or isolated.”

Loneliness is detrimental to mental and physical health, experts say, leading to an increased risk of heart disease, dementia, stroke and premature death. As researchers track record levels of self-reported loneliness, public health leaders are banding together to develop a public health framework to address the epidemic.

“The world is becoming lonelier and there’s some very, very worrisome consequences,” said Dr. Jeremy Nobel, founder of The Foundation for Art and Healing, a nonprofit that addresses public health concerns through creative expression, which launched an initiative called Project Unlonely.

“It won’t just make you miserable, but loneliness will kill you," he said. "And that’s why it’s a crisis."

What is loneliness?​

Loneliness occurs when the connections a person needs in life are greater than the connections they have, Murthy said.

Because it’s so subjective, not everyone feels loneliness the same way or for the same reason.

Nobel argues in his book, “Project Unlonely: Healing our Crisis of Disconnection,” there are three types of loneliness: psychological, social and existential.

Some may experience psychological loneliness when they don’t feel like they have anyone to confide in or trust. Societal loneliness is feeling systemically excluded because of a characteristic, including gender, race or disability. Existential, or spiritual, loneliness comes from feeling disconnected from oneself.

“People can have all of these loneliness types at the same time,” said Nobel, who is on the faculty at Harvard Medical School and Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health.

Loneliness is experienced throughout a person's lifespan, he said, and it can spiral as a result of trauma, illness and the effects of aging. It can also be exacerbated by technology taking the place of human interaction, which helps explain why young people report the highest rates of loneliness.

A Harvard survey conducted in 2020 found that 61% of adults from 18 to 25 reported feeling serious loneliness, compared to 39% across the general population.

Other populations that report high prevalence of loneliness and isolation include people with poor physical and mental health, disabilities, financial insecurity, those who live alone, single parents and older populations.

“This is why it’s so complicated when you try to address loneliness as a population health topic because it’s so varied based on the
circumstances individuals have to navigate,” Nobel said.

Americans are lonely​

Loneliness is by no means new to the human experience. But experts say it has worsened in recent years.
As the American population becomes older and sicker with chronic diseases, the loneliness numbers have increased, Nobel said. Modern conveniences have also caused loneliness to expand dramatically across the population, especially since the COVID-19 pandemic.

Data from the University of Michigan's National Poll on Healthy Aging showed loneliness among 50- to 80-year-olds had increased from 27% in October 2018 to 56% in June 2020, at the height of pandemic-era restrictions.

Self-reported feelings of loneliness decreased to 34% in January 2023, and although the problem is not “as severe as it was during the pandemic, it remains elevated compared to before the pandemic,” said Lindsay Kobayashi, John G. Searle assistant professor of epidemiology and global public health at the University of Michigan School of Public Health.

COVID-19 prompted a boom in delivery services and Zoom meetings, Murthy said which sustained society, schools and workplaces after restrictions on social distancing lifted. As a result, there are fewer opportunities for Americans to interact in person and build social connections.

“We have to be intentional about building social connections in our life,” he said. People are also more likely to change jobs or move around the country due to the rise in remote work, which can disrupt meaningful connections.

Social media has accelerated loneliness as research shows feeling lonely is more common among heavy users of these sites. Although "likes" and "followers" may make a person feel good in the moment, they don't foster genuine connectedness with other people, Murthy said.

The Harvard study found that 43% of young adults reported increases in loneliness since the outbreak of the pandemic. About half reported that no one in the past few weeks had “taken more than just a few minutes” to ask how they were doing in a way that made them feel like the person “genuinely cared.”
“You can be surrounded by lots of people and you can have lots of followers or connections on social media, but not necessarily feel like you’ve got somebody who knows you or shows up for you in a crisis,” he said.
 
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How loneliness can impact health​

There's another reason experts are honing in on loneliness as a growing problem: it can harm a person's mental and physical health, making it a lethal combination.

Tackling this massive problem would mean addressing the greatest preventable risk factor for mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, addiction, suicidality and self-harm, Nobel said. He noted that all of these mental health conditions can be triggered by and also exacerbate feelings of loneliness.

“There’s a bidirectional relationship and that’s what causes spiraling,” he said. Spiraling is a downward cascade of negative thoughts that feed into loneliness, making the condition worse and eroding a person's self-esteem.

The U.S. Surgeon General's advisory report found that loneliness increases the risk of premature death by 26% and isolation by 29%. Murthy said in terms of your lifespan, continuing to live in loneliness is equivalent to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.

Feeling lonely also increases a person’s risk of heart disease by 29% and the risk of stroke by 32%, according to the American Heart Association.

What's remarkable, the surgeon general said, is how pervasive loneliness is.

One in two adults in the U.S. are living with measurable levels of loneliness – it's a broader swath of the population than the number of people with diabetes, Murthy said. “Building social connections in our life has to be a vital priority.”

Researchers are still learning why loneliness causes negative health outcomes, but they have a few working hypotheses.

Loneliness could trigger stress hormones, Kobayashi said, which causes inflammation and dysregulates bodily functions. Feeling lonely could also cause people to adopt unhealthy lifestyle behaviors like poor diet, smoking and substance use.

Lonely people may also be less motivated to seek preventive care, adhere to medication and practice self-care, Nobel said.

The solution: Social connectedness​

If you’re feeling lonely, you’re not alone. Experts say recognition and awareness are important first steps to escaping loneliness.

“There are a lot of people struggling with loneliness and it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or something is fundamentally wrong with you,” Murthy said.

On an individual level, there are things that people can practice that could prevent them from feeling lonely. He suggests taking 15 minutes a day to reach out to someone you care about, look for ways to serve others and make the time count by giving other people your full attention and putting devices away.

Institutions, including schools, employers and health care systems, should also proactively adopt public health strategies to head off loneliness at the pass.

Providers can practice “social prescribing,” Nobel said, a concept that’s already embraced by the U.K. Doctors screen for loneliness, as they would for depression and anxiety, and guide patients to community-based organizations that have partnered with healthcare facilities to address it.

Beyond the health sector, the U.S. Surgeon General said public health leaders can also take a critical look at the infrastructure in local communities and digital environments to spread awareness and help build cultures of connection.

Tackling the nation's loneliness epidemic will require that all sectors of society work together with a common goal, Murthy said.

“We can’t take on a lot of these challenges alone. We need to be together. We need to be connected," he said. "That’s what strengthening the social fabric in our lives and communities is all about."

Send tips to Adrianna Rodriguez: adrodriguez@usatoday.com

This article originally appeared on USA TODAY: Loneliness is at epidemic levels and it's killing Americans
 
All society can do, IMO, is create opportunities for people to connect.

But, individuals suffering from loneliness may also have some social anxiety, or just feel socially awkward, so they choose to not participate. It takes family and friends, if they have those, to gently pull them into gatherings to help make them feel included.

It can be a form of mental disease where the individual themselves must be aware and look for opportunities to change. That's not all that easy.
 
Unfortunately the ideals that the left is pushing will isolate people even further and will lead to more lonliness, depression, suicide, and mass shootings. They have removed all activities from public schools that kids enjoy and unite them such as celebrating holidays.😕

Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) offices on college and university campuses are under intense scrutiny nationwide, and rightfully so. DEI offices are divisive; they create toxic environments that make students afraid to speak on campus. They ascribe particular traits and scripts in the most reductionist way possible to students based on characteristics such as faith, race, and sexuality and functionally prejudice and condition how students will interact and engage with each other.

As a result, open mindedness is disappearing, and students enter a collegiate culture curated by DEI offices that contribute to severe social and emotional challenges for students. Because students are siloed and silenced, DEI offices are heavily contributing to the loneliness epidemic present on our campuses.

While it may not be immediately apparent, students on college campuses today are lonely and disconnected from others. Unsurprisingly, Inside Higher Education’s latest headlining article, “The New Plague on Campus: Loneliness” highlights Surgeon General Vivek Murthy’s new initiative “We are Made to Connect.” Murthy, “heard from young students who were on college campuses who would say, ‘I’m surrounded by hundreds of other kids here, but I don’t know; I feel like nobody really knows me for who I am. I feel like I can’t be myself.”

The data generally back this up. Even before Covid-19 and the lockdowns, younger Americans were disconnected from each other. Data from the American Enterprise Institute’s 2019 Survey on Community and Society demonstrated that younger Americans were considerably more lonely and isolated than older Americans. For instance, 44 percent of 18- to 29-year-olds report feeling completely alone at least “sometimes”, compared to just 19 percent of 60- to 70-year-olds.

Fifty percent of younger Americans say that they “sometimes” feel isolated from others, compared to 30 percent of those 60 years and older. October 2023 data from Gallup confirms this trend showing that while 17 percent of people over 65 worldwide say they feel lonely, 27 percent of the 19–29 cohort feel the same. A 2023 Gallup poll of college students found that roughly 4 in 10 reported experiencing loneliness the previous day. For campuses that are densely populated by peers, this is problematic.

Weak institutions, coupled with social media’s stranglehold on Gen Z, are undoubtedly part of the story. But DEI offices are making the problem worse, splintering students in social spaces, invoking identity politics, generating narratives of harm, and regularly promoting segregated activities. As a professor, students tell me regularly that being subjected to constant tribal political and social messaging makes it challenging to be open and to connect, intellectually and emotionally, with each other. As a former DEI official notes, “DEI is built on the unshakable belief that the world is divided into two groups of people: the oppressors and the oppressed.” Some groups of students are placed in the oppressor category, such as Jews and Israel, which is branded as a “genocidal, settler, colonialist state.”

It is not just Jews who suffer from DEI either. At Harvard, the DEI office is quite transparent in terms of which students they seek to help; namely “people of color, women, persons with disabilities, people who identify as LGBTQIA, and those are at the intersections of these identities.” Those who are not on this list, such as men, whites, Jews, and Asians, are oppressors and generally unwelcome. How could this be a healthy framework for students to connect to one another?

DEI’s built-in tribalism embraces what Paul Gigot has called, “A politics fixed on indelible differences will inevitably lead to resentments” and students are conditioned not to focus on shared values, experiences, trials, and tribulations but on the idea that their peers are causing them harm.

If colleges teach a binary worldview of oppressors and oppressed, it is almost impossible for students to develop connections with empathy, compassion, and trust with anyone outside their narrow identities. Polarization and student’s sense of loneliness and isolation only grows.

Fortunately, some states, such as Texas and Florida, are rightly dismantling these offices, and others are planning to take action. Removing DEI would be a huge help as would cutting down on the related affinity centers and segregated housing proposals that have been on the rise.

DEI dogma poisons student interaction. Students cannot be themselves and share their authentic selves. Instead, they are constantly on guard, living under the threat of bias reporting hotlines should they deviate from the DEI tribal norms.

College life does not have to be this way; let students connect, struggle, and learn from differences in shared spaces and get administrators off campus immediately. This will go a long way to fixing so much of the loneliness and isolation on campus today.
 
Unfortunately the ideals that the left is pushing will isolate people even further and will lead to more lonliness, depression, suicide, and mass shootings. They have removed all activities from public schools that kids enjoy and unite them such as celebrating holidays.😕

Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) offices on college and university campuses are under intense scrutiny nationwide, and rightfully so. DEI offices are divisive; they create toxic environments that make students afraid to speak on campus. They ascribe particular traits and scripts in the most reductionist way possible to students based on characteristics such as faith, race, and sexuality and functionally prejudice and condition how students will interact and engage with each other.

As a result, open mindedness is disappearing, and students enter a collegiate culture curated by DEI offices that contribute to severe social and emotional challenges for students. Because students are siloed and silenced, DEI offices are heavily contributing to the loneliness epidemic present on our campuses.

While it may not be immediately apparent, students on college campuses today are lonely and disconnected from others. Unsurprisingly, Inside Higher Education’s latest headlining article, “The New Plague on Campus: Loneliness” highlights Surgeon General Vivek Murthy’s new initiative “We are Made to Connect.” Murthy, “heard from young students who were on college campuses who would say, ‘I’m surrounded by hundreds of other kids here, but I don’t know; I feel like nobody really knows me for who I am. I feel like I can’t be myself.”

The data generally back this up. Even before Covid-19 and the lockdowns, younger Americans were disconnected from each other. Data from the American Enterprise Institute’s 2019 Survey on Community and Society demonstrated that younger Americans were considerably more lonely and isolated than older Americans. For instance, 44 percent of 18- to 29-year-olds report feeling completely alone at least “sometimes”, compared to just 19 percent of 60- to 70-year-olds.

Fifty percent of younger Americans say that they “sometimes” feel isolated from others, compared to 30 percent of those 60 years and older. October 2023 data from Gallup confirms this trend showing that while 17 percent of people over 65 worldwide say they feel lonely, 27 percent of the 19–29 cohort feel the same. A 2023 Gallup poll of college students found that roughly 4 in 10 reported experiencing loneliness the previous day. For campuses that are densely populated by peers, this is problematic.

Weak institutions, coupled with social media’s stranglehold on Gen Z, are undoubtedly part of the story. But DEI offices are making the problem worse, splintering students in social spaces, invoking identity politics, generating narratives of harm, and regularly promoting segregated activities. As a professor, students tell me regularly that being subjected to constant tribal political and social messaging makes it challenging to be open and to connect, intellectually and emotionally, with each other. As a former DEI official notes, “DEI is built on the unshakable belief that the world is divided into two groups of people: the oppressors and the oppressed.” Some groups of students are placed in the oppressor category, such as Jews and Israel, which is branded as a “genocidal, settler, colonialist state.”

It is not just Jews who suffer from DEI either. At Harvard, the DEI office is quite transparent in terms of which students they seek to help; namely “people of color, women, persons with disabilities, people who identify as LGBTQIA, and those are at the intersections of these identities.” Those who are not on this list, such as men, whites, Jews, and Asians, are oppressors and generally unwelcome. How could this be a healthy framework for students to connect to one another?

DEI’s built-in tribalism embraces what Paul Gigot has called, “A politics fixed on indelible differences will inevitably lead to resentments” and students are conditioned not to focus on shared values, experiences, trials, and tribulations but on the idea that their peers are causing them harm.

If colleges teach a binary worldview of oppressors and oppressed, it is almost impossible for students to develop connections with empathy, compassion, and trust with anyone outside their narrow identities. Polarization and student’s sense of loneliness and isolation only grows.

Fortunately, some states, such as Texas and Florida, are rightly dismantling these offices, and others are planning to take action. Removing DEI would be a huge help as would cutting down on the related affinity centers and segregated housing proposals that have been on the rise.

DEI dogma poisons student interaction. Students cannot be themselves and share their authentic selves. Instead, they are constantly on guard, living under the threat of bias reporting hotlines should they deviate from the DEI tribal norms.

College life does not have to be this way; let students connect, struggle, and learn from differences in shared spaces and get administrators off campus immediately. This will go a long way to fixing so much of the loneliness and isolation on campus today.

Hm, I don't think that's it.
 
I’m about to get dragged to my in-laws. I would be perfectly fine with a couple days of loneliness.

But, yeah, I get it. I feel sorry for people, especially this time of year, who have no one to spend time with.
Supposed to go to the in-laws tomorrow. Would much rather stay home and enjoy the solitude….
 
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i love being by myself. I can only handle being out amongst a lot of people in small doses.

I dont have social media, but i have a handful of good friends (dont really need more than that, imo) that i text and hangout with.

People think because they have all their acquaintances in a digital collection, they are popular or have a lot of friends
 
I don’t think social media causes loneliness.

I think it confirms lonely people’s worst fears, that lots of people are not lonely and enjoy life. Makes the loneliness even worse.
 
I don’t think social media causes loneliness.

I think it confirms lonely people’s worst fears, that lots of people are not lonely and *appear to enjoy life. Makes the loneliness even worse.
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Back when i had facebook in the late 00’s to early 10’s i would love it when individuals got sanctimonious on social media and made long winded posts aboot people who were negative and trying to shame them into being happy.

Their posts were overly positive and cheerful and always portrayed a happy family havijg fun experiences. i always wondered what they were hiding behind the “perfect life” they presented on social media.
 
Actually that is exactly what it is.
Nope. You’ve just fallen head first into propaganda that tells you what you want to hear. The same shit is happening all over the world. I know you want us all to live in the leave it to beaver universe but I say that the 1950’s can get fvcked.
 
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Back when i had facebook in the late 00’s to early 10’s i would love it when individuals got sanctimonious on social media and made long winded posts aboot people who were negative and trying to shame them into being happy.

Their posts were overly positive and cheerful and always portrayed a happy family havijg fun experiences. i always wondered what they were hiding behind the “perfect life” they presented on social media.
No doubt there is some of that. I tend to think occasional posting indicates a happy life. Constant posting to me indicates a person is searching for something.
 
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People feel lonely and isolated because of Bernie Sanders and The Squads Marxist ideas. It gives them no purpose or perspective in life. Marxist want people to feel useless and insecure.
 
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Back when i had facebook in the late 00’s to early 10’s i would love it when individuals got sanctimonious on social media and made long winded posts aboot people who were negative and trying to shame them into being happy.

Their posts were overly positive and cheerful and always portrayed a happy family havijg fun experiences. i always wondered what they were hiding behind the “perfect life” they presented on social media.

It doesn't even have to be anything big either. It doesn't have to be one were they all secretly hate one another.

But even the most healthy families still have problems but they only broadcast their best on social media.
 
I think what we’ve found is that internet connectivity in everyone’s hand (phone, tablet, laptop) has allowed people to have “social interactions” online through Facebook, Instagram, message boards, etc. But those interactions rarely develop into true connections, the kind most humans need, and don’t offer the same mental health benefits. So rather than going out and making friends or spending time with existing friends, people are spending time online and consuming “empty calories” of connectedness.

On top of that there are the attention whores online who pretend to have the most awesome lives with regular parties, vacations, and the most loving partners, leading others to feel like their lives are missing something.

A new friend of mine from this year posted something on Facebook yesterday that came from his church’s Christmas sermon. Something that I really like. The idea was to make room for 8 connections next year. Make time, make effort, etc. to try to have an unplanned conversation beyond just small talk with new people, lost connections, or acquaintances. If everyone did that, the loneliness problem would mostly be solved.
 
A new friend of mine from this year posted something on Facebook yesterday that came from his church’s Christmas sermon. Something that I really like. The idea was to make room for 8 connections next year. Make time, make effort, etc. to try to have an unplanned conversation beyond just small talk with new people, lost connections, or acquaintances. If everyone did that, the loneliness problem would mostly be solved.
I dont get together enough with the handful of people i have in my close circle. I dont have the capacity to make room for 8 connections.

The things i have learned getting off of facebook and trying to interwct with people outside of social media:

1) if people want to be a part of your life, they will stay in contact outside of social media

2) its ok to let go of old friendships. If you realize the attempts to stay in touch or make plans are one sided, let it go. People change, priorities shift. Thats OK.

3) running into acquaintences in public (say at the grocery store) is a more pleasant experience. That brief moment talking to each other and “catching up” is a better experience vs when i was on facebook and it was just a lot of “i saw that on facebook” when either participant says something

4) there is value in keeping your privacy and not blasting everything on social media.
 
i love being by myself. I can only handle being out amongst a lot of people in small doses.

I dont have social media, but i have a handful of good friends (dont really need more than that, imo) that i text and hangout with.

People think because they have all their acquaintances in a digital collection, they are popular or have a lot of friends
I’m not interested in being truly alone, like Will Smith in Legend or Charlton Heston in The Omega Man, but am fine with family and doing stuff on my own. I still have quite a few great friends from HS and college but only a handful of good friends in the thirty years since.
 
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I’m not interested in being truly alone, like Will Smith in Legend or Charlton Heston in The Omega Man, but am fine with family and doing stuff on my own. I still have quite a few great friends from HS and college but only a handful of good friends in the thirty years since.
Dont get me wrong, i prolly wouldnt like it either. But i dont need to have frequent interaction, and get enough of people during the day at work and love my alone time (maybe that would change if i worked from home, but my office door is closed 95% of the time)

Going to a bars, parties or crowded spaces like a grocery store on a weekend afternoon or stores after thanksgiving drains me.
Trying to make small talk with people i dont know is draining.
 
Going to a bars, parties or crowded spaces like a grocery store on a weekend afternoon or stores after thanksgiving drains me.
Trying to make small talk with people i dont know is draining.

This is relatable. Especially since I went sober and really got to observe bars as a sober introvert. Absolute shit show most of the time, and they leave me feeling worse off just for being there.
 
Dont get me wrong, i prolly wouldnt like it either. But i dont need to have frequent interaction, and get enough of people during the day at work and love my alone time (maybe that would change if i worked from home, but my office door is closed 95% of the time)

Going to a bars, parties or crowded spaces like a grocery store on a weekend afternoon or stores after thanksgiving drains me.
Trying to make small talk with people i dont know is draining.
I love the exchange in The Thin Red Line between Private Witt (Jim Caviezel) and Sergeant Welsh (Sean Penn). Witt asks Welsh if he ever feels lonely and Welsh responds, “Only around people.”
 
Divide; bring hopelessness. The Federal Government will take care of you.
 
Dont get me wrong, i prolly wouldnt like it either. But i dont need to have frequent interaction, and get enough of people during the day at work and love my alone time (maybe that would change if i worked from home, but my office door is closed 95% of the time)

Going to a bars, parties or crowded spaces like a grocery store on a weekend afternoon or stores after thanksgiving drains me.
Trying to make small talk with people i dont know is draining.
You are talking about the difference between introvert vs. extrovert. Introverts recharge their batteries by spending some time alone (or with a close friend). An extrovert recharges by interacting with others.

Lonliness is when you are alone because you dont think there is anyone you can call. You want to be with others but it doesn't happen for a variety of reasons.
 
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