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I wonder if she used chunky or creamy peanut butter to get Fido started . . .
Anyone know any ladies as pervy as these two!?
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I’d go creamy in that particular scenario.
You frequently post what I’m thinking. You’ve a beautiful mind, sir.
Nothing wrong with slump busters.....just don't marry them
A. "Know" any women as pervy as them? No.......
"Met"?..........Perhaps.
B. The first gal seems to be the most "normal" of the bunch so far............and I have met a few women like that in my travels.
"Met"?..........Perhaps.
B. The first gal seems to be the most "normal" of the bunch so far............and I have met a few women like that in my travels.
Just the basic small-town fishing techniques:
- Winking at women at the farmers market expertly sorting through the "longer" vegetables.
- DMing the women posting on the neighborhood/school forums after midnight.
- Calling the local pizza places to see if any single women have called in orders requesting "extra anchovies".
- Hanging out at the feed store looking for women buying riding equipment, but that I know don't have horses.
- Scanning NextDoor for people complaining about their neighbors having more than three cars parked outside their house after 9pm.
So far, nothing.
Perhaps you should start one and make sure to include pics of your wife.
"Be the change you want to see in the world."
I like it!
Right up until all the dudes reply back with "Hey, I know her!".
Very disturbing. Not sure which is worse,the crime or that you felt the need to post it . 🤮🤮Man, it must be Pervy Lady Thursday or something at Slate!!!!
Dear How to Do It,
I will not sugarcoat this: I have been masturbating to photos of my cousin, who’s a few years younger than me. I saw him for the first time in years over the holidays and he’s simply an extremely attractive young man now. We don’t have a close familial relationship—he lives three states away—and I have no intention of acting on this. I should probably just unfollow him on Instagram, but is there anything wrong with what I’m doing? Is this abnormal?
— Too Close for Comfort?
Dear Too Close,
Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, has data on incestual desire: “It is unusual/uncommon for people to fantasize frequently about their relatives. In the survey I conducted for [my book] Tell Me What You Want, I found that just 3 percent of my sample said incest was something they fantasize about often.” As for whether your masturbation material is wrong, he notes, “That said, it is common for people to fantasize about things that are taboo more generally—and it’s often the case that people with taboo fantasies have no desire to ever act on them because they know it would be wrong or they are afraid of the consequences. So if you fantasize about something taboo that you know you would never do in real life, you’re certainly not alone.”
So, the specifics of your situation may be abnormal, but fantasizing about things you won’t do is pretty prevalent, even when those things are taboo for good reason.
In the event that you’re distressed by your erotic enthusiasm, Lehmiller suggests speaking with a certified sex therapist. The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists has a directory of therapists on their website, as does the Kink Aware Professionals Network. Lehmiller adds, “It may also be helpful to avoid triggers of the fantasy to reduce distress (in this case, unfollowing or muting the individual if their posts tend to trigger fantasies) and to expand one’s erotic repertoire. Research shows that it is difficult, if not impossible, to get rid of a fantasy that you do not want to have, but it is possible to learn or cultivate new sexual interests to focus on that you find to be more acceptable.”
Dear How to Do It,
I saw my girlfriend of six months being orally pleasured by her neutered male dog. She doesn’t know I saw her. I don’t know what to make of this. We both come from fairly conservative backgrounds and have limited sexual experience. I can’t imagine discussing this with her. But I can’t get the image out of my head. I really like this woman, and one side of me wants to say it’s no big deal, just another way to masturbate. But this is bestiality, right? Isn’t it technically illegal, or at least immoral? I keep wondering what she’s thinking while we have sex, and my appetite for oral is nil now. This is sad because we had been communicating well about sex (a first for me). I can’t talk about it with friends like I usually world. So I ask you, how weird is this? What would you do?
—Puppy Love
Dear Puppy Love,
What you describe, doggone it, is bestiality. Any sexual activity with an animal that is invited or facilitated by a human is bestiality. (Rover taking it upon himself to hump your leg doesn’t quite qualify.) It is illegal in most states, though somewhat counterintuitively, possession of pornography that features bestiality is legal in nearly every state. Look but don’t touch, says the law. The prevailing understanding is that because animals, which are sentient beings, cannot consent to sex, having it with them is unethical. As far as I can tell, studies have not been performed on the traumatic effects of bestiality on animals (so, sex researchers who may be reading, there’s a topic for you to pursue), but it’s generally a good rule of thumb to assume the worst and not have sex with animals.
I understand your desire to write this off, and I think “Bestiality: Just Another Way to Masturbate” would be a catchy, if untrue, slogan for an animal lovers’ lobby. While I suppose it is conceivable that one could enjoy the feeling of a dog’s tongue without being attracted to the dog it is attached to, per se, it’s not like your girlfriend was on a desert island with no vibrator and a Labrador. Getting eaten out by a dog is a choice. (I’d also be at least a little insulted that she opted for a dog’s tongue instead of mine if I were you.) In fact, if she were sexually attracted to the dog, the troubling thing would be less her urge than the execution of it. It’s one thing to have fantasies, and it’s quite another thing to enact them. Zoophilia is not an uncommon fetish, though I wouldn’t say it’s widely practiced. (You can decide whether that fits your definition of “weird.”)
Her behavior is well within the reasonable boundaries of deal-breakers. Is this someone you want as a sex partner? A life partner? Wanna share your girlfriend with a dog? That seems, uh, rough. You’re only six months into things. Be happy that you discovered this now, while it’s still early.
I Think I’ve Gotten Into Something Way Too Weird With My Hot Cousin
I think I need to unfollow him on Instagram.slate.com
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Man, the Cyclone fan OP has straight fire for a thread today.
They're no strangers to relationships with animals, after all.
You wouldn’t believe how many pineapple decorations he has in the front yard.
Where is Lute these days? I could use one of his half-assed haikus on this topic to get me through the afternoon…
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There's an APP for that!
I Think My Boyfriend and I Are Breaking a Very Important Rule of Sex With Strangers
We've heard some warnings about this.
