It seems like every crazy/poorly behaved kid that I encounter ever since I became a father sleeps in bed with parents for an extended amount of time. I know plenty of 2 year olds that still sleep in their parents beds. There's a 4 year old that's the son of an acquaintance that still sleeps in bed with his parents, and the parents have no control over the kid at all. Anyone have similar experiences? It seems like it's a guaranteed way to start parenting and discipline off on the wrong foot.
Did your children sleep in your bed as infants/toddlers?
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Yes, that seems like normal parenting. I made it clear to my wife that our child would sleep in their crib/bed nightly. Putting your child in your bed at the first sign of tears definitely puts the kid in control
Sounds like normal SP posting.
Neither of us wants a kid in the bed. Nobody sleeps except the kid. They go horizontal, flip, kick you in the face, etc.
Ok, well then breast fed until at least the age of twelve?
You split a boob with a friend and couldn't finish?
I'm curious how SP learns the sleeping arrangements of so many people with kids. Can't say it has ever come up in course of conversation for me
No. Never.
Question to OP- When you see kids that are giant turds do you ask them if they sleep in their parent's bed?
My son, now 9, has on occasion crawled in bed early in the morning (6:00 AM or so).
Question to OP- When you see kids that are giant turds do you ask them if they sleep in their parent's bed?
My son, now 9, has on occasion crawled in bed early in the morning (6:00 AM or so).
Several infants in the Des Moines area have suffocated in recent months due to this practice. We did not allow our kids to sleep in bed with us though they did occasionally sleep on us while we slept on the couch. (Probably also could lead to tragedy.)
Nope. Our son might sleep with my wife if he's sick and just continuously waking up. But that might be once or twice a year.
My wife finds these things out while talking to other moms. My wife has kept in touch with many moms in the birthing group we were in, as well as parenting groups. We also have a lot of friends, many of which are also having kids now as well. The correlation has happened enough for me to think it isn't coincidental.
I'll take the bait...our two year old went through a phase from 12-18 months where he slept in our bed almost every night. At first we felt like we were doing this terrible thing by letting him come in there, but eventually we realized that sometimes you just do what you have to do to get by. His behavior hasn't suffered at all from it, and he only comes in our bed maybe once a week now. We can take him to church and he will sit there the whole time without any issues, he also does great in restaurants and the grocery store. And no, I'm not being biased when I say that because we also have a ten month old (who has never slept in our bed) and she can be difficult in public (way more than he ever was). My take on things is that a good portion of a child's disposition comes from their genetics, and the rest comes from what they experience. You can change them maybe 10-20%, but some of it can't be changed. A lot of parents don't know how to communicate with toddlers, and a small temper tantrum escalates into an all-out meltdown because the parent just keeps saying "no" and expecting it to work.
Good thing your wife has you to keep her from being a shitty parent.
My point is, you can't stop at "no" and expect it to work with a 2-3 year old. If you don't know how to teach them to respond to a "no" then you're going to get a temper tantrum almost every time. And the best time to teach them is when they are in the situation.
I still sleep with my parents, and I am 40.
Is that weird?
Seriously, my 9 year old still likes to snuggle in bed with the Mrs. and I every once in a while. I enjoy it.
Most of the time he does a pretty good job sleeping in his own bed.
Is that weird?
Seriously, my 9 year old still likes to snuggle in bed with the Mrs. and I every once in a while. I enjoy it.
Most of the time he does a pretty good job sleeping in his own bed.
Settle down, I was making a joke in a thread that's surely going to need a few. My dog actually is pretty disciplined all things considered, which of course must mean I am as well, right?
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My cousin and his wife did the "attachment parenting" thing and had their kids sleep with them EVERY NIGHT until they were like 5. So weird.
I don't for the life of me know how they ended up with a second kid - that had to be awkward.
I don't for the life of me know how they ended up with a second kid - that had to be awkward.
Actually, if the kid is doing that every time, it is an underlying issue with the parenting, not necessarily what is happening right then.
Obviously, but once a tantrum starts, if you don't know how to handle it yo
Obviously. But - even the most well-parented toddler is going to have their moments, and if you don't know how to handle them (in the moment) then they are going to be ugly. The same people who don't know how to handle the moments are usually the ones who don't know how to teach behavior on a daily basis either.
Strangely enough, this sounds like a conversation I had with the late Michael Jackson.
I guess what I was getting at is this: I was envisioning you kneeling down to your tantrum-throwing-toddler and saying, "Look, I understand you are frustrated, but see, Mommy and Daddy don't want to buy you a lollipop because it contains high fructose corn syrup and it isn't good for your overall health."
Parents who think they can effectively relate to, and convince, a small child are fooling themselves. As I said, at the point they are telling their children "no", and it just gets dramatically worse....they've already lost the war.
Parents who think they can effectively relate to, and convince, a small child are fooling themselves. As I said, at the point they are telling their children "no", and it just gets dramatically worse....they've already lost the war.
It's funny that I read this and then read how your son is miserable and gets bullied in school. Wonder if there's a correlation?
Nonsense. He knows everything, and all of you should be asking him for advice.
Wrong, guy had to open a book to learn how to get the Mrs. preggo. If he is a real person, that kid is going to turn his life upside down.
Raise a kid first and then be a critic Stevie. You're doing this backwards. I hope you're not like this in real life. You just don't seem like a very good role model. This coming from a troll who had most of the board convinced he was black.
My daughter turns 3 in a week. She has never slept in our bed. The first two weeks of her life she slept in a little bassinet by our bed then it was right to her crib.
I stopped reading when you stated you "have a lot of friends." I find this hard to believe.
My life did get turned upside down, but I love every part of it. I have no plans on walking away like some posters
Who are you talking about? Most on here, even the divorced ones, talk a lot about staying active with their kids.
As for the rest, you just do your best. All kids are different and they all pose their own unique challenges at different ages. You learn as you go and try to find the best ways to connect with and guide your kids. You can't drag them through life lessons, you just have to give them the tools to figure it out on thier own.
Same except for us it was 3 months. Never has slept in our bed even for a night.
Our twins never slept with us and they're now 3 years old. I hate to say it but I find myself most mornings waking up to at least one if not both of them in our bed. I'll hear them some nights waking up (dream/nightmare/etc) and make sure they are calm and stay in bed. Other nights I don't hear them and they get up and walk into our room and hop in bed. I prefer they don't sleep in our bed and we've had pretty good luck so far but we're hitting a rough patch currently with them sleeping in our bed (they always start out in their own bed and end up in ours)
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