F**k cancer!! 🤬🤬

[GOHOX69]

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01635581.2019.1598562

 

[WadeLookingbill]

Hope things are getting somewhat better. Very sorry to hear this news. As someone with first-hand experience, let me pass along some advice.

One of the biggest surprises from a Stage 4 cancer dx - aside from the actual diagnosis - is the response from friends. Or more specifically, the lack of response from friends. Other than family and partners, there's a chance your father will hear nothing from friends. This is a pretty common and disappointing reaction for cancer patients.

While your dad is going through this, encourage his friends to at least reach out to your dad with a text or phone call to just check in. It's very depressing to go through treatment and get no encouragement from people that you've known for years. It's odd actually.

I've found that people who wear ribbons for various causes like cancer - yet do not take the time to check up on friends dealing with these health issues - is probably the worst example of virtue signaling you'll ever see.

I'd agree with this but for a slight correction. Often the initial outpouring of love and concern is huge, but then during the slog of treatment you just don't hear from friends very often. I suppose it's not surprising, as everyone wants to go on with their lives and not be thinking of sadness/depressing things all the time, but it's definitely something I think about when trying to stay in contact with those going through treatments. One thing that I've seen help is pushing active notifications to those who want it, through something like Caringbridge or the like, and then the updates don't require what could be an awkward reach out about health status.

I appreciate all of the people in the world working to find new cancer remedies, and I particularly appreciate everyone who has ever fought this shit disease. Every time through the doors for radiation, chemo, or surgery takes some real courage.

One last soap box, I despise the phase "lost his/her battle to cancer." There are so many better ways to discuss life and death, do better than using that phrase.

 

[GOHOX69]

I'd agree with this but for a slight correction. Often the initial outpouring of love and concern is huge, but then during the slog of treatment you just don't hear from friends very often. I suppose it's not surprising, as everyone wants to go on with their lives and not be thinking of sadness/depressing things all the time, but it's definitely something I think about when trying to stay in contact with those going through treatments. One thing that I've seen help is pushing active notifications to those who want it, through something like Caringbridge or the like, and then the updates don't require what could be an awkward reach out about health status.

I appreciate all of the people in the world working to find new cancer remedies, and I particularly appreciate everyone who has ever fought this shit disease. Every time through the doors for radiation, chemo, or surgery takes some real courage.

One last soap box, I despise the phase "lost his/her battle to cancer." There are so many better ways to discuss life and death, do better than using that phrase.

I agree with the last part. I don't let that define anyone. It's a dumb phrase.

Fyi, I saw Wade at a Des Moines costco.

 

[WadeLookingbill]

I agree with the last part. I don't let that define anyone. It's a dumb phrase.

Fyi, I saw Wade at a Des Moines costco.

I hope he was looking well! Him, his pump fakes, and his bushy eyebrows deserve to be remembered well (at least for his Iowa playing days, I can't speak to his adult life).

 

[GOHOX69]

I hope he was looking well! Him, his pump fakes, and his bushy eyebrows deserve to be remembered well (at least for his Iowa playing days, I can't speak to his adult life).

And the shorts 😀
I did like him as a player. Dude hustled.

 

[Hans81]

My dad just returned from his oncologist and found out he has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Eff cancer. Didn't give a time frame but they recommended hospice.

Sorry to hear this…hopefully you and your family can spend quality time with your dad in the remaining time he has.