Unfortunately I don't have grandkids yet; which is why I know I'll be too old to watch them grow up.
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How do you feel about the fact that you will die one day?
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Unfortunately I don't have grandkids yet; which is why I know I'll be too old to watch them grow up.
I think about it quite a bit, and it's mostly how sad I'd be to leave my kids without a dad (3 & 1). A distant second to that is what happens to me. I believe in God and some sort of an afterlife, but the unknown scares me. I hope to live a long and fruitful life, but thinking about being dead FOREVER is scary.
I have worried about dying all my life. But I find the closer I get to actually doing it, the less I worry about it. Which is passing strange. I still don't want to do it, though. If you know of any way to avoid it, let me know, please.
Having said that.....
1. You either believe in an afterlife or you don't. If you believe, you should have a rough idea of how you'll spend yours. If this makes you nervous, it probably would be wise to consult an expert.
2. No matter how old you are, you have no excuse for not having a will and other basic arrangements on paper. None. Young, healthy, successful people die every hour. Don't let your sloth -- or sense of denial -- make things worse for loved ones who will have to deal with your demise.
3. Financially, since I have no children, my goal is to work things out so the check to the undertaker bounces. Mrs. LC and I have been spending a lot of money (by our standards) after retirement. Splurging on stuff like travel, nice restaurants, paying people to mow our lawn and scoop our driveway, that kind of thing.
Basically, I cannot imagine lying on my deathbed and being thankful I didn't spend $1,000 extra 10 years earlier to go first class just to avoid 9 hours of misery in a cheap charter seat.
Having said that.....
1. You either believe in an afterlife or you don't. If you believe, you should have a rough idea of how you'll spend yours. If this makes you nervous, it probably would be wise to consult an expert.
2. No matter how old you are, you have no excuse for not having a will and other basic arrangements on paper. None. Young, healthy, successful people die every hour. Don't let your sloth -- or sense of denial -- make things worse for loved ones who will have to deal with your demise.
3. Financially, since I have no children, my goal is to work things out so the check to the undertaker bounces. Mrs. LC and I have been spending a lot of money (by our standards) after retirement. Splurging on stuff like travel, nice restaurants, paying people to mow our lawn and scoop our driveway, that kind of thing.
Basically, I cannot imagine lying on my deathbed and being thankful I didn't spend $1,000 extra 10 years earlier to go first class just to avoid 9 hours of misery in a cheap charter seat.
Thanks for the brilliant contribution
No, Brian, he's right. You need help. I pray that you will find it.
Thank you Doctor. Please don't pray for me. I'm doing fine and you'd just be talking to yourself
Thank you Doctor. Please don't pray for me. I'm doing fine and you'd just be talking to yourself
God loves you anyway...don't ever forget that.
I'd say that everybody is entitled to his or her opinion on this subject.
I would add that if my opinion was the same as your opinion, I would be one hell of a lot more worried about dying than I am.
There are no experts on what happens after you die; just people who are more confident in their opinion than can be justified.
As for the money aspect, I've often thought about if we didn't have kids retirement would be easier, because we wouldn't have to try to leave a nice sized inheritance -- we could just try to spend it all. Maybe our kids will strike it rich and we won't have to worry about it.
Well sure, religious myths are comforting. It's easier to believe that when you die you get to play a harp on a cloud forever but that doesn't make it so.
We already know what happens when you die. Your brain shuts down and your body goes back to the Earth. Religious people just cannot accept this reality because they're scared.
It's the only one ya got!Better do your living while you are alive.Some textard might tbone you.Or you could fall down and break your head.Or you might stroke out watching Kirk get conservative midway thru the second quarter and set on a three point lead.
Enjoy life and quit worrying about stuff.
Enjoy life and quit worrying about stuff.
Whatever the correct percentage happens to be, they aren't delusional to the point that they think actual babies are actually being murdered in the womb.
True. I will hold onto them until they are collectors items though. Maybe get some autographed.
You are the only person that has used the word oligarchs all day. Well done.
yep, people have goals to acquire things...fancy car, big house, toys. I value my free time more than i do acquiring possessions. i work a lot today to hopefully pay some debt off and get to the point where I can live a comfortable lifestyle and only work part time. Not sure if that is realistic...but it is a dream of mine
This is a point I don't quite understand. Most religious people seem to believe in an afterlife that excludes a huge majority of people. And most acknowledge that other religions believe in an afterlife that if true would exclude them. Finally most think getting excluded is a really bad deal. So logically belief in an afterlife should make a person nervous, as the law of averages says you are wrong, and even if right, many of your loved ones won't be with you. Where the non religious have no reason to be afraid because they aren't expecting anything.
Yep. We could spend all our spare time looking for something to eat like the cave men.
Well in the last 19 months, I've taken an ambulance ride to the hospital thanks to a upper gastrointestinal bleed thanks to a liver disease I had. December 17th I had a liver transplant stemming from the gi bleed. At the time I was truly in the best shape of my life and everyone was completely shocked I'd had any issues. June 16th, I had a routine colonoscopy and they found a tumor that had penetrated the wall of my colon. I had surgery to have it removed and of the 17 lymphnodes they took with it, 9 had cancerous cells. I stayed chemotherapy at the end of August and I am currently 9 out of 12 treatments down. So, how do I feel about death? It's a pretty real thing and we're all gonna be there at some point. My choice is to fight and live. I'm taking my family and kids to the Rose Bowl, and I'm choosing to stand and take it all on. No one would know of any of my issues when they meet me if they didn't know, and the ones that do know marvel at how well I'm doing. Honestly, it's harder than anyone knows but I refuse to live life on my knees. Ever. Guess that's my $.02. You never know when life is gonna punt you right in the balls so live it to the fullest, chase your dreams, and find those people and moments that make you happiest and never let them go.
I'm young enough that there is a good chance I'll be able to live on well into my 100's because of technology. Even so, my body is a temple so I take care of myself likd no time is guaranteed.
This is pretty much exactly where I am too. It's not that I want to live forever, but being completely gone is a scary thought. At least let me hang out in spirit form or something.
Did you start this thread just so you could call out Christians? Obviously you knew there would be posters responding that they believe in Heaven.
I am in my mid-50's and did not give it a lot of thought until I watched both my Mom and Dad die within the last three years. Since then, I have had a lot to think about and many doubts. I seem to be more aware of my mortality now than I have ever been, but I will choose to live each day as full as I can while I can!
In general my attitude about death is that I may be nervous about the moment when it does come as I've never died before, ultimately everyone has to go through it and there is just nothing that I can do about that.
The world doesn't end when I die. I worry about my wife and kids if something happened to me early but my life isn't all that terribly important so as to be heavily concerned with it. My death is not likely to start a war or affect the fate of a nation. Nor is it likely to lead to any level of mass grieving outside of my own family.
I also have hope and confidence that I will receive mercy for my numerous sins. It's the fate of others that is more bothersome to me. Some may count that as foolish or childish, but I honestly don't care.
This has troubled me from the very beginning when I became Christian. So it's certainly something I've considered. It however has not deterred my belief. An atheist would say that harsh realities about death being an end should not deter people from accepting them. While I don't accept their harsh realities I do accept the harsh reality that many of my loved ones who are not Christian in belief will not join me in heaven nor in the resurrection.
The world doesn't end when I die. I worry about my wife and kids if something happened to me early but my life isn't all that terribly important so as to be heavily concerned with it. My death is not likely to start a war or affect the fate of a nation. Nor is it likely to lead to any level of mass grieving outside of my own family.
I also have hope and confidence that I will receive mercy for my numerous sins. It's the fate of others that is more bothersome to me. Some may count that as foolish or childish, but I honestly don't care.
This has troubled me from the very beginning when I became Christian. So it's certainly something I've considered. It however has not deterred my belief. An atheist would say that harsh realities about death being an end should not deter people from accepting them. While I don't accept their harsh realities I do accept the harsh reality that many of my loved ones who are not Christian in belief will not join me in heaven nor in the resurrection.
Sometimes when people imagine heaven, they describe it as a place where all your desires are fulfilled. Do you hold to this as a possible description of heaven? Might it be the case that you get to pull your loved ones into heaven if being with them is what you desire? Or perhaps once you get to heaven you no longer desire your loved ones? The Bible is fairly quiet on the heaven concept isn't it?
