I don't believe you and I disagree much and I don’t stick around enough to remember. But you quoted my friend who I purposely avoid (I hope he doesn’t end up with the winning Lotto numbers one day…
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) so here is my thought, not necessarily directed at you…
The 3 biggest lies message board patrons tell themselves…..
1) I’m entitled to my opinion and I’m just telling it how I see it……Yes you are but so is everyone else and they are entitled to tell you that they find you boorish and unenjoyable to be around.
2) It’s not like I affect the team or anyone else…..well in my most polite voice bull^#$. There are all kinds of studies out there about how badly negative attitudes affect their surroundings and infiltrate everything around a business/program. Let’s think about this for a second, player A,B,C is already disgruntled, player A, B, C gets on message board or players family does and viola…So again Bull^%$! Don’t tell me it doesn’t affect anything, it affects everything!!
3) This board would be a boring place if everyone agreed…again I say bull&^$%^. In theory yes that sounds great, but you can disagree and not be a jackwad. Case in point no one likes it when I’m condescending and caustic. Well that’s how you sound and people don’t like it. Learn how to express your dissatisfaction in a better manner. That wouldn’t fly in a boardroom. meeting room, in a study setting, with your employees, with your bosses, etc..
Here is the rub; there are some awesome new studies out there about negativity vs positivity and how “each” rewires you brain to view the entire world with whatever slant becomes the norm for you. It’s cool stuff and has made a dramatic affect on us here at work. Typically if people spent as much time looking at “what” went wrong as opposed to leaping to what we “didn’t do” or “should have done” they’d be more believable.
Finally to my critics, do you really think I do this on accident or it’s my normal state?! If you find me offensives it is by design. I want you to feel like you make other people feel. My wife tells me I can’t police the world and the Truth is it actually affects my attitude at home being around this crap. That’s why I have to leave after a few forays. Because truly its painful….for all of us.
PS...The most informative guys on this site are always the ones who are more pleasant and less reactionary. Not flowers and sunshine, but middle of the road and in control of their attitudes and rhetoric. As you can see, I’m one of the more obnoxious at times, but I am far from alone in my disgust.