I respect that you have your opinion, but I would offer up that nothing in today's world is basically consequence free. This will cost him something at some point. Respect, a second chance if it happens again, a recruit......something.
I am all for him standing up for his team (I did not see the game, but heard it was pretty bad), but get your T's, put your finger in the officials face, get ejected, and let them hear you long and loud, that will get your point across.
But all that flailing around, and charging at another person like you intend to do some serious harm.....to the point where your 18--22 year old players feel like they need to hold you back?..........no thanks, those are the actions of a jackass. Maybe overall he is not a jackass, but in that moment he was without question. How do you expect your kids to act with composure if you cannot? Do as I say and not as I do? that's crap, IMO.