Figured I'd dump these observations here in the even someone finds any of them helpful. Grammar police GFY, unless you find an improper you're or your - then you can kick my ass.
I'll caveat this with acknowledging no two kids are the same and folks obviously figure out their own ways with their kids. However, the context herr is generally ‘average’ athletic ability or below kids. Our kids never had a prayer of playing college sports, for example, which we know right away but still saw ourselves getting sucked into the youth sports machine time and again. That aside, here goes.
I'll caveat this with acknowledging no two kids are the same and folks obviously figure out their own ways with their kids. However, the context herr is generally ‘average’ athletic ability or below kids. Our kids never had a prayer of playing college sports, for example, which we know right away but still saw ourselves getting sucked into the youth sports machine time and again. That aside, here goes.
- Expose your kids to as many sports/activities as humanly possible at early ages (kindergarten to 4th/5th grade, perhaps). Emphasize a variety of sports early, resist the urge to go to hard into one sport early one. (For example, doing a bunch of training when a sport isn't in season can burn a kid out early)
- Step back and just watch/absorb… what sports do your kids seem to gravitate to? What sports do they seem to have coordination for? (Let's be honest, it's more fun for everyone if the kid has some aptitude for a sport)
- How do your kids choose to spend their free time? Are they out in the backyard throwing baseballs in the air, shooting hoops in the driveway, kicking a soccerball at the park, etc? That's a pretty darn good clue where your kids might be open going a little deeper into a sport down the road without it feeling like you're forcing them to do something.
- Leagues/clubs that involve tryouts or placement before, say, 6th grade are dumb. Again, this isn't directed at the kids are who are clearly shoulders above others and who thrive in that cutthroat environment. This is more for the fringe kids who have a good chance of getting cut - there's no reason to put them through that experience when they could be playing in a positive-vibes rec league. Our oldest kid played travel baseball in 4th grade, then got cut the following year. He was so down about it he decided he wanted nothing to do with baseball after that. He now regrets quitting baseball that early. Our younger son played high AA baseball in 4th grade, then was demoted to middle single A the next year. He did not play well for sure, but experiencing that demoting feeling before middle school doesn't have a point. He almost quit too but we convinced him to at least stay in the rec league.
- Let them pull you, don't push them - a nudge, some encouragement, etc is fine sometimes, but figure out the right balance. Too much nudging and pushing early on will lead your kid to hate that sport very quickly.