Lots of good points to be considered here. It is absolutely worth noting that these are 17-19 year old "kids" who are making what is most likely the most important decision in their lives up to this point. They absolutely owe it to themselves and prospective coaches/schools to make the best decision. No one wants a young man to transfer away in the first year or two because he's regretting his decision. Yes, that's going to happen at some point to every team, but it's best for everyone when a player can start and finish at the "right" school for him. Having said that, most of these guys have had a couple of years to figure out what they are thinking and they should be mature enough to understand the importance of their decisions. Even if they aren't as mature as we'd like, we need to hold them accountable by expecting mature behavior, or else immaturity will become the standard. This also means treating them with respect in return, as that is one of the best ways to engender good behavior. That's one of the reasons I try to stay away from these arguments about a recruit's character or "poor choices" when it comes to picking a school. If a young man's elders can't treat him maturely and respectfully, it's hypocritical to expect adult-like behavior from a high school recruit. From what I can see at my admittedly far distance, I believe Kirk is a good example of a coach who treats his recruits as adults and expects adult behavior in return.
I've never been and never will be a football coach, but I'd image you really want the guys to be "committed" when they verbally accept a scholarship offer. Trying to plan an incoming class must be monumentally difficult, and having guys leave your class is probably pretty disruptive to things. With that in mind, I can see how a coach would take a position that some do regarding taking visits after committing. You're going to lose guys most years, as things are going to change these young men's minds. It's human nature. However, to be disingenuous and accept an offer only to continue to plan visits is playing with fire. If you really want to explore all of your options, then you aren't truly committed to any school yet. Yes, there are limited spots in many school's recruiting classes, but you risk losing a spot if you hold off on a commitment until January. Holding a place in line somewhere may be a strategy that works, but I really don't blame a coach for trying to eliminate that at his school by pulling a scholarship when a guy continues to look around. That action is the only way to keep your recruiting classes from filling up as a nice fallback school. That's recipe for signing day disaster year after year. It's relatively easy to deal with an undecided guy who's deciding late compared with a guy who says he's committed, but you really have no idea. You can't go around offering scholarships to other guys "just in case", because you have a spot already filled.
The bottom line for me is that if a coach says a commitment to his school is final, then he really needs to back that up to maintain the effectiveness of that part of the agreement. If a player starts looking around and taking serious visits, he's absolutely got to know that it means his spot will likely be gone at the school to which he was committed. If it's worth the risk for him, then that's absolutely his choice, so he'd better be sure he's okay with that consequence. These are young men, not children, at least that's how we want them to act on the field and on campus. Why should we not expect the same behavior from them now? They are old enough to make informed decisions, and most of them are old enough to vote. They need to understand that actions have consequences, so make good choices with full knowledge of what those choices will mean to them.
Thanks to anyone who took the time to actually read all that. It ended up much longer than I thought. No need to post any TLDR replies, thank you.