With respect, you lose me by immediately comparing it to something that’s very real by saying neither are. I dont feel like getting into yet another TG debate so let’s stay focused on this.
I don’t pretend to have a great definition for white privilege, to me it’s something I think is more subtle. Growing up in Iowa, I think it’s easy to be more blind to what other racial groups go thru, given the overwhelmingly non-diverse nature of the population. Take law enforcement for example, that’s possibly the most visible example I can think of.
As a group, minorities are FAR more likely to have a negative experience with, or know someone who did, with cops than your average white person. So it’s easy for us to dismiss claims of police bias because we have never or rarely been in that sort of position.