Cohabitation before marriage

[Uwe.Blab]

from Psychology today:

6. Do you want to test out your relationship first by living together?

It's common for contemporary couples to live together before marriage, but their reasons for doing so appear to predict how happy their marriage will eventually be. When couples use cohabitation to test out a relationship, or when they cohabitate for practical reasons (e.g., finances), they tend to report less dedication to their relationships and less relationship confidence. Should their arrangement transition to marriage, these initial uncertainties could help explain why cohabitation before marriage sometimes leads to lower marital satisfaction (Kamp, Cohan, & Amato, 2003). Couples that are already highly committed, and cohabitate for other reasons — e.g., to spend more time together — might be better poised to move towards marriage.

 

[unIowa]

Thanks???

 

[luvmyhawks]

@LuteHawk is not going to like this.

 

[Mattski]

In other news, water is wet...
Men like to cohabitate so they can tap the booty without max commitment. Women like it bc they get to play house.
Neither of which lends itself to really helping marriage be more successful. That said mrs mattski and I did so for about a year before marriage but we were engaged and we're fast approaching 20 years of marital bliss.

 

[Uwe.Blab]

@LuteHawk and @BrianNole09

this post's for you.

 

[HawkFantastic]

Another pointless thread by Bobby Knight's red headed step child.

 

[longliveCS40]

We already had this thread/discussion. You are an awful poster.

 

[bojihawk44]

We already had this thread/discussion. You are an awful poster.

Him and Nat are running away with WPOY honors so far.

 

[The Tradition]

Worked for us. We'll be celebrating 30 years of marital bliss next February.

 

[Uwe.Blab]

We already had this thread/discussion. You are an awful poster.

You are not good yourself.

 

[Uwe.Blab]

Him and Nat are running away with WPOY honors so far.

At least I am only half-retarded. Remember Nick Foles? You went full idiot on that one.

Then you doubled down.

Then you tripled down.

 

[Urohawk]

Had to laugh at our Pre-Cana classes. I was an atheist but baptized Catholic. My wife is Catholic. Because of my baptism we were able to get married in the Church. My wife and I were the only people in the room who:

1. Were not co-inhabiting
2. Had no prior children
3. Had not been previously married.

I said we were doing pretty good in the eyes of the Lord....

 

[bojihawk44]

At least I am only half-retarded. Remember Nick Foles? You went full idiot on that one.

Then you doubled down.

Then you tripled down.

Be a little less shitty of a person and poster and don't use the r-word.

No clue what you're blabbing about, but that's par for the course with you.

 

[WildTurk]

9 years with my fiancee. We love living together. Marriage is just a document we will someday get.

 

[jasonrann]

I remarried in 2014 after dating for five years. We lived together two years prior to marrying. We do things together that we enjoy, but have things we do separately also. We put our marriage first, but both acknowledge and embrace our individual tastes also.

 

[LuteHawk]

@jasonrann

My wife and I go out two times a week to an upscale
restaurant in our large city. We have a bubbling beverage,
fabulous food, and cozy companionship. My wife goes
out on Tuesday nights and I go out on Friday nights.

 

[BrianNole09]

Living together usually creates drama and fighting then restraining orders...

 

[strummingram]

Loving together usually creates drama and fighting then restraining orders...

What about living together.

In fact, I'm not sure loving together creates drama... especially when you're making love!

 

[jasonrann]

@jasonrann

My wife and I go out two times a week to an upscale
restaurant in our large city. We have a bubbling beverage,
fabulous food, and cozy companionship. My wife goes
out on Tuesday nights and I go out on Friday nights.

Nice work, solid plan.

We have a two year old so our alone stuff is a bit more infrequent these days. However, last night was her dinner club with four close friends. They get together, shoot the shit, gossip a bit, eat great food and drink a ton of wine. Last night it was at our house so I kept little one occupied and put to bed so she could enjoy the full night. Sunday is her birthday and I have arranged for her parents and our mutual friends to come by to celebrate, she will really enjoy that. I am content to meet my best buddy for a quick happy hour every week or two. It all balances out and that is the key.

 

[McLovin32]

Him and Nat are running away with WPOY honors so far.

Meh. You could throw in one or two more.

 

[tumorboy]

Loving together usually creates drama and fighting then restraining orders...

 

[LuteHawk]

Marriage has always been a juggling act concerning
giving each other some space. It is natural for most
guys to get together for a round of golf, or a fishing/
hunting trip, Women love to go shopping at regional
malls or join a monthly bunco club

Bottom Line: You will have a lonely life, if your wife
is your only friend..

 

[MepoDawg#]

We lived together after a month of dating (stayed together several nights before), got engaged after 5 months then married after 20 months. Celebrated 14 happy years of marriage last month with 2 great kids. Couldn’t of asked for much more. Got baptized together while we were engaged and are active Christians now.

 

[Wendy79]

Marriage has always been a juggling act concerning
giving each other some space. It is natural for most
guys to get together for a round of golf, or a fishing/
hunting trip, Women love to go shopping at regional
malls or join a monthly bunco club

Bottom Line: You will have a lonely life, if your wife
is your only friend..

Holy stereotypes, Batman.

And "regional malls"? Bunco club?

 

[BrianNole09]

Another pointless thread by Bobby Knight's red headed step child.

What do you have against red headed step children?

 

[hawkbirch]

Holy stereotypes, Batman.

And "regional malls"? Bunco club?

Mr. Birch and I are so screwed. We lived together for two years before we married. He doesn't hunt, fish or golf. I'm not in a bunco club and I only visit local malls.

 

[Moral]

Him and Nat are running away with WPOY honors so far.

I have my money on RNhawk.

 

[BrianNole09]

Holy stereotypes, Batman.

And "regional malls"? Bunco club?

I had no idea what bunco was until I read this thread.

Thanks, Lute...

 

[bojihawk44]

I have my money on RNhawk.

I am not familiar with his work. I'll have to check that out, thanks.

 

[LuteHawk]

Suburban living in the Midwest will open your eyes to
a new world. Women are working out at Gold's Gym,
attending a "Book of the Month" club, volunteering at
the Red Cross bloodmobile, taking cooking courses at
the local junior college, singing in their church choir,
volunteering to be a room mother at her child's school.

 

[hawkbirch]

Suburban living in the Midwest will open your eyes to
a new world. Women are working out at Gold's Gym,
attending a "Book of the Month" club, volunteering at
the Red Cross bloodmobile, taking cooking courses at
the local junior college, singing in their church choir,
volunteering to be a room mother at her child's school.

Some of us work full time too.

 

[luvmyhawks]

Some of us work full time too.

I told you lute wasn’t going to like this.

 

[luvmyhawks]

I am not familiar with his work. I'll have to check that out, thanks.

Look for the “I love trump threads.” It’s usually rn, lc, traditional and oit circle jerking.

 

[DavenportHawk8]

Wife and I lived w/each other for 2 years before marriage. We had our ups and downs but we made it work.

I’ve seen couples get married and move in w/each other and divorce w/in a year.

I’ve also seen couples make it work w/out prior living experiences. The big thing is everyone has to understand and compromise on things.

 

[LuteHawk]

Honest communication is the key to a good marriage.
This enables a husband and wife to have a trustworthy
relationship. I learned this from my neighbor Fred Smith.

Fred asked his wife: "Will you remarry if I die suddenly?"
She said, "Yes, I suppose so."

Fred said, : "Will you stay in this house with your new husband?"
She replied, :"Ok, I suppose so".

Fred asked, "Will you allow him to wear my clothes?"
She said, "Probably".

Fred inquired, "Will you give him my golf clubs?"
She replied emphatically. "No, I would not, he is left-handed:

 

[goldmom]

In other news, water is wet...
Men like to cohabitate so they can tap the booty without max commitment. Women like it bc they get to play house.
Neither of which lends itself to really helping marriage be more successful. That said mrs mattski and I did so for about a year before marriage but we were engaged and we're fast approaching 20 years of marital bliss.

By the time you move in together you've already been doing the horizontal mambo for a while. My guy and I lived together our last semester, we were engaged, and we were married for 34 years. So I guess you and Mrs. M and me and Mr. B were the exception to the rule?!

 

[TunzaHawk]

Living together usually creates drama and fighting then restraining orders...

For those that choose poorly. Not those that make a wise choice in partners.

 

[pezhawk]

Living together usually creates drama and fighting then restraining orders...

You need to actually talk to a living, breathing human female.

 

[BrianNole09]

You need to actually talk to a living, breathing human female.

I have.

I also see the drama that living together creates; it works out much less than half the time...

Have you noticed how often couples that live together, bicker often?

Me too

 

[millah_22]

It's like test driving a car before buying.