Without vast proof regarding how some of the elite kids end up at these top level high school programs, some of it is kids hanging with other top level kids at various tourneys...think Fargo as an example.Ignorant. Their JV squad can beat most varsity squads. They have had kids who wrestled 3 years jv and then get one shot at varsity and place.
Friendships develop and one kid says to the other "Join us at XYZ school".
In youth basketball/baseball, it happens a lot.
Hell, my grandkids have/were approached as early as 7th grade by teammates around Des Moines.
Is it the right way to do thngs???
Everyone makes a decision they feel is in their best interests.
That's the current environment.