Get a load of this story: So, my 16 year old teenage stepson is high functioning autistic. He struggles and just barely gets by in school (except in band). But like most autistics, he gets fixated on things and will have meltdowns where he will be self-destructive and badgering to get his way. His brother and my daughter make his feelings of inferiority worse since they are both honor roll students. He has twice been caught with dime bags of weed by my wife. The second time she was tipped off by his friend, our neighbor’s son, that he had been skipping study hall and smoking in his car. Well, my wife went to the car when she knew where he was out at, finds out that he has some, AND he’s with a Senior girl from band he calls his girlfriend. Odd way to meet, but she grounds him from being able to use the car for the month. In the meantime, my wife says to the girl that she is welcome to come to the house sometimes to see him.
Cut to a month later. My wife and the girl get along. Turns out the girl is also high functioning autistic. The girl seems to get on his case about the right things and he’s not been skipping. The mom of this girl has taken them out together, bought him nice clothes, and other items. But this mom gets all defensive about her daughter’s condition AND his. She says her daughter is normal and starts telling my wife he doesn’t really have the problems my wife had talked about. She’s known him a month and has spent time with him 3 or 4 times, but whatever.
Well, last week he skips part of study hall and lunch. Turns out that they were together and that they walked the few blocks to his Dad’s house and “had lunch” alone during that time. Alarm bells, right? Well, same friend that informed my wife about the pot, told his mom that our stepson was bragging that he was getting some from her. So my wife calls her mom to let her know, thinking that she should know and be vigilant if they’re together. But this mom gets all offended, shares this text with her daughter, and decides to call out my wife as overbearing. My wife asks about birth control and this mom says her daughter can make her own decisions and she will support her in any consequences, but that she would tell her if she needed it.
The next day, the girl breaks up with him saying that she can’t take how my wife “doesn’t like her”. My wife contacts this Mom trying to explain that this is not the case, she just doesn’t want a grandchild on their hands, etc. This mom accuses my wife of thinking her daughter is a “slut”, and freaks out about how her daughter has told her she’s a virgin, and she trusts her, and her daughter wouldn’t lie to her, etc. Turns out this girl is seeing one of his friends now, a couple days later and her mom texts my wife saying she is seeing this kid because “his parents respect their privacy”. Literally, all my wife ever asked for was to have an adult in the home, and that they keep their door open. They could even lay together on their beds. WTF??? Parents really let their 16 year olds alone? Ones with a history of bad decisions? This girl is going to get knocked up in the next year. Am I right?
Cut to a month later. My wife and the girl get along. Turns out the girl is also high functioning autistic. The girl seems to get on his case about the right things and he’s not been skipping. The mom of this girl has taken them out together, bought him nice clothes, and other items. But this mom gets all defensive about her daughter’s condition AND his. She says her daughter is normal and starts telling my wife he doesn’t really have the problems my wife had talked about. She’s known him a month and has spent time with him 3 or 4 times, but whatever.
Well, last week he skips part of study hall and lunch. Turns out that they were together and that they walked the few blocks to his Dad’s house and “had lunch” alone during that time. Alarm bells, right? Well, same friend that informed my wife about the pot, told his mom that our stepson was bragging that he was getting some from her. So my wife calls her mom to let her know, thinking that she should know and be vigilant if they’re together. But this mom gets all offended, shares this text with her daughter, and decides to call out my wife as overbearing. My wife asks about birth control and this mom says her daughter can make her own decisions and she will support her in any consequences, but that she would tell her if she needed it.
The next day, the girl breaks up with him saying that she can’t take how my wife “doesn’t like her”. My wife contacts this Mom trying to explain that this is not the case, she just doesn’t want a grandchild on their hands, etc. This mom accuses my wife of thinking her daughter is a “slut”, and freaks out about how her daughter has told her she’s a virgin, and she trusts her, and her daughter wouldn’t lie to her, etc. Turns out this girl is seeing one of his friends now, a couple days later and her mom texts my wife saying she is seeing this kid because “his parents respect their privacy”. Literally, all my wife ever asked for was to have an adult in the home, and that they keep their door open. They could even lay together on their beds. WTF??? Parents really let their 16 year olds alone? Ones with a history of bad decisions? This girl is going to get knocked up in the next year. Am I right?