For a child that is taking over the farm, the land can't be divided equally or they don't have much of a chance. That said it sets them up at retirement to be way ahead financially.Does the sweat equity he put into taking care of things for mom and dad not have any value? This is a hot button topic for me because my dad was the son who stayed on the farm and took care of my grandparents. I bought the home place from my grandma in 2015 and am now in the same position my dad was in. My sweat equity and being around to help my parents out should be factored in to things when that day comes. I'm not expecting a huge bonus but cutting things in equal shares doesn't seem fair in my mind either. I think my sisters are in agreement with me on that. Divide land equally, but equipment and cattle should be handled differently in my opinion.
Generally, 1% share is given to the child that stays per year for the sweat equity in addition to wages. To buy out it should be done on a 10 year plan not 3-5. I'm talking about actually farming. The issue comes around when 2 want to farm but there is only room for one.
Dad's don't typically train the child to take over which is a real problem. Also compounding issues are in laws. For example you have 4 kids and 2 have stable long term relationships. Bypassing the spouse of your child really isn't fair. It's easy to see not giving property to the inlaw. You can set up bypass trusts where income is provided for the spouse of the child Or you can by a strong life insurance insurance policy on your child.