The world and war is not that black and white. History belongs to the victor. You and I likely will never agree on Ukraine or on Gaza. We can agree that war is terrible. Have a son that is a major. SIL that is a Captain. Favorite uncle was near the Yalu River when the Chinese came over the border. Two daughters (adopted) that were war refugees. I"m a published (not self) history author and have traveled extensively.
I'm not better or smarter, I just have different experiences. As I've mentioned before, I've photographed Maidan demonstrations and saw/took photos of poor people being paid 60 USD per day to carry signs that were paid for by the US and Russia.
Once someone is dead they are dead. In most cases in 20 years that death will have no meaning. I"ve been to Babyn Yar and stood on a soccer field that covered the bodies of 90k Soviet troops/civilians at Khoral. I have Musliim friends as well as Russian and Ukrainian.
If we greatly reduced the need for Iranian, Saudi and Russian oil the world would be a much safer place. A 22 yo Ukraiinian concert pianist is taking his helicopter flight lessons starting this month post graduation of Ukrainian ROTC. I"ve known him since he was less than 2 years old and he sat on my suitcase to keep me from leaving.
Americans are calloused about war devastation due to not having a major war on our soil in so long. My daughters have to deal with CPTSD every day of their lives.
You'll never get me to believe that crushing an enemy regardless of civilian outcomes is an acceptable thing.