What would you do if your child came out as transgender?

[InsaneHawkJJP]

We just got a scary message from our son’s college that they found a student dead in my son’s dorm. My son didn’t know them but has friends who did. It sounds like the deceased recently came out as trans and their family completely disowned them. Everyone who knew the deceased says they were taking it extremely hard and they are assuming it was a suicide.

My son is trans, so this hits really close to home and I got very emotional when I heard this. I couldn’t imagine not supporting my child. I also can’t imagine the guilt and pain those parents are experiencing now.

The trans hate in this country needs to stop.

I realize this is a sensitive subject and I’ll probably get lots of hate from the usual suspects, but I have most of those hateful bigots on ignore anyway.

 

[Scruddy]

Trans suicides statistically increase if they are affirmed and go through gender surgery. Just fyi since you don't seem to understand the data. Affirming mental illness isn't a kindness and you're not a good person for doing so.

 

[Huey Grey]

Love them. That's what you do.

 

[Phenomenally Frantastic]

Sounds like the deceased had severe mental illness and the college and their friends failed to help them in any meaningful way. That’s sad for everyone involved.

What would I do? I would question and investigate every influence they had in their life that pushed that mind virus garbage into their brain.

 

[BrianNole777]

I don't have kids and likely never will so I'm not an expert on this topic.

It would depend on the age of the kid. I would try to explain to them how being trans won't make them happy. The social sciences prove this time and again. 40% of trans people attempt suicide, as an example.

I wouldn't disown them over it. Transgenderism makes no sense to me since it's based on feelings. I think it's basically a delusion like many others.

That being said, there are many, many worse things than being trans like a pedophile, serial killer, terrorist, etc.

Suicidality Among Transgender Youth: Elucidating the Role of Interpersonal Risk Factors - PubMed

Data indicate that 82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide, with suicidality highest among transgender youth. Using minority stress theory and the interpersonal theory of suicide, this study aims to better understand suicide risk among...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

 

[Chishawk1425]

Sounds like the deceased had severe mental illness and the college and their friends failed to help them in any meaningful way. That’s sad for everyone involved.

You also seem to have a severe mental illness.

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

I don't have kids and likely never will so I'm not an expert on this topic.

It would depend on the age of the kid. I would try to explain to them how being trans won't make them happy. The social sciences prove this time and again. 40% of trans people attempt suicide, as an example.

I wouldn't disown them over it. Transgenderism makes no sense to me since it's based on feelings. I think it's basically a delusion like many others.

That being said, there are many, many worse things than being trans like a pedophile, serial killer, terrorist, etc.

Suicidality Among Transgender Youth: Elucidating the Role of Interpersonal Risk Factors - PubMed

Data indicate that 82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide, with suicidality highest among transgender youth. Using minority stress theory and the interpersonal theory of suicide, this study aims to better understand suicide risk among...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

Your religion is just a feeling also. I’m not surprised you feel the way you do.

 

[Huey Grey]

I don't have kids and likely never will so I'm not an expert on this topic.

It would depend on the age of the kid. I would try to explain to them how being trans won't make them happy. The social sciences prove this time and again. 40% of trans people attempt suicide, as an example.

I wouldn't disown them over it. Transgenderism makes no sense to me since it's based on feelings. I think it's basically a delusion like many others.

That being said, there are many, many worse things than being trans like a pedophile, serial killer, terrorist, etc.

Suicidality Among Transgender Youth: Elucidating the Role of Interpersonal Risk Factors - PubMed

Data indicate that 82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide, with suicidality highest among transgender youth. Using minority stress theory and the interpersonal theory of suicide, this study aims to better understand suicide risk among...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

This is the exact wrong thing to do. You do this and you will fvck them up. Please. Don't ever do this.

 

[Chishawk1425]

I'd love my child, and be open to what they wanted to tell me.

 

[BrianNole777]

This is the exact wrong thing to do. You do this and you will fvck them up. Please. Don't ever do this.

There's a 99.99% chance I'll never have kids so there's no need to worry.

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

Sounds like the deceased had severe mental illness and the college and their friends failed to help them in any meaningful way. That’s sad for everyone involved.

What would I do? I would question and investigate every influence they had in their life that pushed that mind virus garbage into their brain.

So predictable.

 

[BrianNole777]

Your religion is just a feeling also. I’m not surprised you feel the way you do.

It's based on a real historical person.

Transgenderism is just based on how a person feels like they're in the wrong body.

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

Trans suicides statistically increase if they are affirmed and go through gender surgery. Just fyi since you don't seem to understand the data. Affirming mental illness isn't a kindness and you're not a good person for doing so.

Link please.

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

It's based on a real historical person.

Transgenderism is just based on how a person feels like they're in the wrong body.

God isn’t historical. So the son of said sky fairy isn’t factual history either.

 

[BrianNole777]

God isn’t historical. So the son of said sky fairy isn’t factual history either.

Jesus is indeed historical.

 

[RileyHawk]

Jesus is indeed historical.

What do you imagine Jesus would do in this situation?

 

[Chishawk1425]

Jesus is indeed historical.

He's historical and I believe in him. The GOP and the MAGAt Brigade claiming they are Christians are the opposite of Christ's teachings.

 

[BrianNole777]

What do you imagine Jesus would do in this situation?

I think he'd treat trans people with compassion and try to convert them to who God wants us to be.

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

Jesus is indeed historical.

Him being the son of god isn’t a fact though. It’s more of a feeling people have.

 

[BrianNole777]

Him being the son of god isn’t a fact though. It’s more of a feeling people have.

I think it's based on historical evidence.

Anyways, not to hijack the thread, what's the story of your son becoming trans?

Have you ever written in detail about it here?

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

I think he'd treat trans people with compassion and try to convert them to who God wants us to be.

So who does god want trans people to be?

 

[BrianNole777]

So who does god want trans people to be?

Saints that stay in their birth gender.

 

[Phenomenally Frantastic]

Love them. That's what you do.

This approach is failing individuals who express gender dysphoria. You advocate for suffering and death.

Do you also tell schizophrenics the voices in their head are real?

 

[InsaneHawkJJP]

I think it's based on historical evidence.

Anyways, not to hijack the thread, what's the story of your son becoming trans?

Have you ever written in detail about it here?

That seems like a feeling.

 

[RileyHawk]

I think he'd treat trans people with compassion and try to convert them to who God wants us to be.

What does that even mean? Who does God want us to be?

Do you believe he would advocate for his family to disown?

Do you believe someone who is gay needs to be "converted"?

 

[OutbackBowl2017]

As a parent, you tell your kids you love them regardless of their choices and are there for them no matter what so they always know they can talk to you no matter the topic or what they are going through. Sad deal all the way around.

 

[RileyHawk]

Saints that stay in their birth gender.

Really? And you know this how?

 

[globalhawk]

Jesus is indeed historical.

He is thought to be real. His story on the other hand is quite different.

 

[BrianNole777]

Really? And you know this how?

I don't. I'm speculating.

 

[Phenomenally Frantastic]

Really? And you know this how?

God doesn’t want humans to have psychopath doctors cut off/out children’s genitals to alleviate their emotional suffering.

 

[RileyHawk]

I don't. I'm speculating.

Yes. You are. Completely.

 

[TennNole17]

I feel like this is a difficult “what if”. Each persons kid is different from the other. I don’t think this earns a universal “agree with your kid” mantra.

 

[BrianNole777]

What does that even mean? Who does God want us to be?

Do you believe he would advocate for his family to disown?

Do you believe someone who is gay needs to be "converted"?

God wants us to be saints in this world and the next.

I don't think God would want to disown anyone.

I think God wants everyone converted, gay, straight and trans.

 

[RileyHawk]

God doesn’t want humans to self mutilate or have psychopath doctors cut off their genitals to alleviate their emotional suffering.

And you know this how?

 

[BrianNole777]

Yes. You are. Completely.

Correct.

I can't speak for God, that's for sure.

 

[RileyHawk]

God wants us to be saints in this world and the next.

I don't think God would want to disown anyone.

I think God wants everyone converted, gay, straight and trans.

You're speculating again, I see.

At least you admit that much.

 

[BrianNole777]

You're speculating again, I see.

At least you admit that much.

Yes. I can't speak for God.

I hope to know the truth in a few decades after I stroke out.

 

[Phenomenally Frantastic]

And you know this how?

Because those who would advocate such behavior are clearly evil.

 

[RileyHawk]

Correct.

I can't speak for God, that's for sure.

You're just guessing. That admission is enough for me.

 

[ft254]

Sounds like the deceased had severe mental illness and the college and their friends failed to help them in any meaningful way. That’s sad for everyone involved.

What would I do? I would question and investigate every influence they had in their life that pushed that mind virus garbage into their brain.

Sick fcvk. You love your kids no matter what.

That's what separates right wing sick fvcks from the rest of the world. Goddam hatred.