Where do you stand on this parenting question

[gohawks86]

Your son or daughter is a senior in high school and wants to date a Junior in college. He/She is 18 in first quarter of Senior year. The other is 21 and a Junior in college.

 

[The Tradition]

If you're 18 you're good to go. Do whatever you want. But remember, if I don't like what you're doing, I can now legally throw you out of the house.

 

[moral_victory]

Stop being a transphobic and just call them by the gender they identify with.

 

[The Tradition]

To seriously answer your question, I'd need to meet the 21-year-old before making any judgments.

 

[gohawks86]

Stop being a transphobic and just call them by the gender they identify with.

LOL...

 

[ChrisVarick]

Agree that it would depend on the male. The truth is it doesn't matter if the kid is 18 or 21. They are still trying to screw your daughter.

 

[Hawk_82]

Tell her to enjoy highschool, if she wants date a college kid. Fine, but you are not going to visit him every weekend. In 6 months you can date as many college kids u want

 

[littlez]

Why does a 21 year old college kid want to date a Sr in high school anyway? 3rd year of college. Date someone on college.

 

[KitingHigh]

My son, I'm ok with it. My daughters, not so much.

 

[littlez]

Why are you ok with your son robbing the cradle with a high school girl? 18 or not she's still in high school.

 

[gohawks86]

Why does a 21 year old college kid want to date a Sr in high school anyway? 3rd year of college. Date someone on college.

Exactly my thinking. I didn't understand it either when they were 15 and 18.

 

[Funky Bunch]

It all boils down to one thing to me. A pic of either 18 year old daughter or 21 year old girlfriend.

 

[The Tradition]

Funny... does anyone have a problem with a 21 yo and a 24 yo?

It's just three years anyway you slice it. If 18 is the age of consent, there's really nothing mom and dad can do about that, whether the suitor is 21 or 83.

 

[SSG T]

My daughter did just that. She's now a Sr in college and he's in Med School and they are now engaged.

 

[dgordo]

My daughter did just that. She's now a Sr in college and he's in Med School and they are now engaged.

Pic?

 

[SSG T]

Pic?

Nope, sorry.

 

[ICWestfan]

 

[gohawks86]

My daughter did just that. She's now a Sr in college and he's in Med School and they are now engaged.

When she was a freshman in high school and he was a senior in high school they never dated. He goes to college and comes back and wants to date her. Freshman in college and Sophomore in high school and we said No way. I don't have to be ok with an 18 year old dating a college junior.

 

[moral_victory]

So number ten; is that saying you will sex the boyfriend?

 

[KitingHigh]

Why are you ok with your son robbing the cradle with a high school girl? 18 or not she's still in high school.

Because, every year he gets older, but they stay the same age.

 

[ICWestfan]

So number ten; is that saying you will sex the boyfriend?

Well, my grammar is pretty poor, so maybe this will help. The "f" used by the BF would be an "action". The" f" used by the father would be an euphemism to perform another action on the BF.

 

[Hawkeyemc]

Sure as long as long as she doesn't go visit him.

 

[gohawks86]

I have to admit that part of the issue was when he was in college he came back and our 15 year old was sneaking out to see him. Shi-- hit the fan. We told her if it continued and she wanted to act like an adult and do adult things then she was going to really act like an adult and start taking care of things herself. So she currently has 1 tank of gas left to find a job. Or the bus leaves at 7:04 a.m. for school.

 

[Hoosierhawkeye]

I would want to meet the person first. I would be skeptical but I wouldn't write the whole thing off.

18 and 21 is not a huge age gap.

 

[whatsup13579er]

Why is loser 21yo college kid going after a high schooler?

 

[beanerhawk]

Why is loser 21yo college kid going after a high schooler?

 

[INXS83]

Why does a 21 year old college kid want to date a Sr in high school anyway? 3rd year of college. Date someone on college.

Cradle robber.

 

[timinatoria]

Let's see.....when I was dating in HS and college what would I have thought of those rules.

1. I have one.
2. I don't care.
3. No, evidently you're not.
4. I'm not going to hurt her tough guy.
5. Just tell me when you want her back, and we'll be back by then.
6. No, not going to do that.
7. No, evidently you won't.
8. Ok
9. You've never been in jail.
10. No, you won't. Unless you're gay.

 

[Nat Algren]

I'm still looking for the question.

 

[gohawks86]

I'm still looking for the question.

Would you, let your 18 year old daughter. Date a Junior in college who is 21. Your daughter is in her 2nd quarter of her senior year.

 

[INXS83]

Would you, let your 18 year old daughter. Date a Junior in college who is 21. Your daughter is in her 2nd quarter of her senior year.

Only if I knew the guy, his parents, where he lived and my spouse and I both agreed our daughter was mature enough and dating this dude for the right reasons. In other words, it depends.

 

[tarheelbybirth]

Only if I knew the guy, his parents, where he lived and my spouse and I both agreed our daughter was mature enough and dating this dude for the right reasons. In other words, it depends.

Yep.

 

[tarheelbybirth]

In a chat with my wife years ago, I mentioned the year I graduated high school. She got quiet, then said, "I was in sixth grade then".

I told her I wouldn't have dated her then. When we met, she was 26 and I was 32.