I grew up in a republican family. When I turned 18 (2007) I registered as a republican. I kept that designation until 2016.
During the 2016 primaries, I was very much against Bernie and Trump. I truly expected the republicans to be the “normal” party that nominate a normal candidate like Rubio or Kasich, and I expected the democrats to be the “crazy” ones to nominate a socialist candidate. But I was wrong, and I no longer recognize the republican party. Trump has flipped their views on free trade, isolationism, and even his “reluctant” supporters do not acknowledge how crazy Trump really is. They sane-wash whatever crazy shit he says and does.
I do often question my sanity. Trump seems like the equivalent of the dress that looked to be either black & blue or white & gold.
I fully understand pushback to democrats. I don’t support blanket student loan forgiveness. Men should not play women’s sports. I am pro-choice, but understand why people fundamentally disagree with it. We had weak border enforcement. But even on all those issues, I don’t think the democrats are “crazy”.
Men playing women’s sports, for example: democrats are not really saying that men should be able to play in women’s sports. I am not a scientist (I’m a tax attorney), but my understanding is that relevant governing bodies (e.g., the NCAA) set standards for measuring testosterone / other factors that would prevent biological males that have not undergone sufficient hormone therapy from competing. More simply put, Lia Thomas did not have a significant competitive advantage over other swimmers. I don’t understand the science, but I am willing to defer to experts, and that willingness to defer to experts is no longer welcome in the republican party.
I more fundamentally disagree with democrats on the student loan forgiveness issue. People agreed to pay for college education by taking out a loan. Unless they are then taking public service jobs where forgiveness is part of the agreement, it makes little sense to just cancel contractual obligations. I get the desire to make college more affordable, but loan forgiveness is an absolutely terrible way of trying to accomplish that. But even with my fundamental opposition to this policy, that does not mean I want to elect an ignorant bully just to piss off the people I disagree with. Moreover, the amount of student loan forgiveness is a very small part of overall government spending, and is far from a make or break issue for me.
Most of my family are republicans. Of those that have gone through similar amounts of introspection as I have, none have voted for Trump. Those that have not gone through that introspection have voted for Trump. I don’t think that everyone who voted for Trump is a bad person. At the same time, I don’t understand how any good person could vote for someone who is so vile, ignorant, and petty. I will never understand it.