I have one of these birthdays coming up tomorrow and I’m not going to lie I’m not looking forward to it. I by no means feel like I should be this old already. Where the heck does time go.
Which of these ages did you regret
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Loved em all, looking forward to all of them too
29 was brutal for me at the time. I felt like I was turning 30, so I mourned the loss of my 20s a year early. The 30s turned out to be incredible with our kids being born then, and getting go experience the joys of kids under 10. The 40s were better financially, and I loved my kids as teenagers too, but shit gets a lot more complicated. I’m 49 now staring at 50 and I cannot complain. However, I wish I could go back and start it all over again from age 30.
I'm looking at 60 in a couple of weeks. Getting old sucks ass.
This is what feeling 50 turns like. There is a sense of gravity to it that you now feel a bit like an elder, but just not yet elderly. No complaints but for the first time your own mortality starts creeping in and, while being satisfied, you wish you could go back and be young and dumb again. This is the year where "youth is wasted on the young" really became a saying for me.
I turned 50 last year, but still feel and act like I'm in my 30s.
It’s not for sissies. 🤨
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tl;dr I dreaded 50, but now that I’m here I’m having a blast.
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When I turned 50 in 2022 I really started to think about how many “good” years I have where I can do pretty much anything I want. At some point the physical reality of aging will impact my life and I want to make sure I get all the bucket list things accomplished before that point. Why save all the money until I can’t enjoy the activities I would spend it on?
So I quit my job, started volunteering in non profits that I truly believe in, and have started doing things that arguably I should have done in my twenties. I just wrapped up a 4 night 50 mile hike through the Grand Canyon, have traveled extensively (for fun finally have decades of doing it for work), etc.
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When I turned 50 in 2022 I really started to think about how many “good” years I have where I can do pretty much anything I want. At some point the physical reality of aging will impact my life and I want to make sure I get all the bucket list things accomplished before that point. Why save all the money until I can’t enjoy the activities I would spend it on?
So I quit my job, started volunteering in non profits that I truly believe in, and have started doing things that arguably I should have done in my twenties. I just wrapped up a 4 night 50 mile hike through the Grand Canyon, have traveled extensively (for fun finally have decades of doing it for work), etc.
The shocking thing is that as you move through the second half of your life there are MANY times where your brain is still in 30 years old mode but then your 50+ year old self says “WTF are you thinking, woman?” 😬
Just a part of life. Doesn't bother me at all. I turn 50 next year. Just another year. My body falling apart does suck though.
Turned 63 last Friday. Life is good and I can't think of an age I dreaded.
I voted 70 because I'm looking forward to being able to tell everyone I'm 69.
The biggest thing that bothered me about turning 50 was the fact that the next milestone is 60. Age is such a mind fvck because I remember things from my teens, 20s, 30s and 40s and they all seem like yesterday. I am 53 and since I quit drinking about 13 months ago, I feel like I am 35. Most people guess my age at least ten years younger than what it is. I am thankful for that at least, especially with two young children.
My bride tells me I was really shitty on my 50th...she thought it was cute when she put 50 of those candles that you can’t blow out on my cake....,I do remember feeling really good about turning 42...I think I could see light at the end of the tunnel about then. I’m damn near 75 now and I still remember to check my zipper several times a day, so that’s a good thing.
Meh I figured it was all downhill birthday wise after 21. So I wasn't even looking forward to my 22nd birthday.
On my 40th birthday I was extremely pre-occupied with my mortality.
On my 40th birthday I was extremely pre-occupied with my mortality.
I turned 40 in April.
I felt pretty good because my 30's were much better than my 20's.
I felt pretty good because my 30's were much better than my 20's.
Haven't regretted any age yet, but I'll turn 60 in a few months. Maybe I'll repost then.
Love it.
What are you doing for health insurance?
Age is just a number and if you’re still able then go for it - if you want to. 😏
I turn 39 in a month. I'm not looking forward to 40 at all and have absolutely no idea where time went. I can see why people have a mid life crisis.
I honestly have had no issues with any of my birthdays. Every year has just gotten better and I have zero desire to go back. If I live to my 80's maybe I will start to dread birthdays. But right now I welcome them. More so I just welcome the chance to keep living a really blessed life.
I remember 50 kind of bummed me out, but 60 was the really rough one so far. Until I got there, 60 always seemed old. Just the other day a coworker said something about his customers all being "old guys, like 60."
Loved my 60s, retired with money, no worries and had good health with lots of travel.
Every year I tell myself it’s better to be old than cold.
I never look forward to a birthday. If nobody else said anything, I'd probably let the day go by without even thinking about it.
Regret? None of those. Honestly, outside of getting a birthday cake I'm not sure anyone has noticed one of my birthdays in 30 years and I'm totally ok with that. I can think of many other things I'd rather celebrate than a birthday. Like an Iowa sports team win.
As for regrets, any regrets I have come from before about age 26 or so. And some of them were probably actually really good decisions but I still would like to know what might have happened if I'd made a different choice in certain situations. I guess as I've gotten older that's the only thing I really dwell on, not that I'm obsessed with it or anything. All in all, I'm in a pretty good situation right now. Happily married with two kids who only occasionally irritate me, bills get paid, we are able to afford things we want and go on vacations, and we are on track to retire in pretty good shape. There are a lot of people with far more reasons to be upset than I do, that's for sure.
As for regrets, any regrets I have come from before about age 26 or so. And some of them were probably actually really good decisions but I still would like to know what might have happened if I'd made a different choice in certain situations. I guess as I've gotten older that's the only thing I really dwell on, not that I'm obsessed with it or anything. All in all, I'm in a pretty good situation right now. Happily married with two kids who only occasionally irritate me, bills get paid, we are able to afford things we want and go on vacations, and we are on track to retire in pretty good shape. There are a lot of people with far more reasons to be upset than I do, that's for sure.
One way to look at life is to value your relationships .
It starts with love for your parents and your siblings.
Then comes marriage and love for your spouse and
children. You also have the relationships with your
close friends. Yes, enjoy your life and the people in it.
It starts with love for your parents and your siblings.
Then comes marriage and love for your spouse and
children. You also have the relationships with your
close friends. Yes, enjoy your life and the people in it.
I just turned 42 yesterday and I've never felt anything but joy on my birthday. However, our kids' ages are what usually gets me. When the oldest was 13, then 16, then 18, those are the ones that are tougher on me.
hawkeyetraveler
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We were already on the no pic’s insurance. She’s a few years younger and still very engaged by her work. The only downside is that I end up doing more things solo that I would rather do with her. But, I can always do them again later when she comes to the same conclusion.
Birthdays never bothered me until this upcoming one. 50 next month, My mind still thinks like I'm in my 20's but the reflection in the mirror says otherwise. It's going to a rough day but any crying is going to be on a beach in Mexico. A HS classmate shared this a couple months back when he turned 50 and it kinda hit hard:
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