Gee, I can't imagine why.....
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/17/60p...say-theyre-uncomfortable-mentoring-women.html
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/17/60p...say-theyre-uncomfortable-mentoring-women.html
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Jfc. This explains why the Incel numbers are growing. Did nobody teach these “men” how to talk to a woman respectfully without hitting on them?
As a manager. I would never ever have a closed door meeting with one. Unless there was a video recording. All it would take is one accusation in this climate to end your career.
There people are clueless:
“That’s one way to create equal access,” says Thomas. “I don’t fully understand it, but for whatever reason if a man is also uncomfortable having a one-on-one meeting with a woman or working with a woman, then leave the door open.”
Like I said....clueless.
The story is not about incels; it's about senior male managers.
Maybe I am not following your viewpoint but are you concerned that you will say something that could be perceived inappropriate or are you concerned about a false allegation?
If the latter then I think you are being way too paranoid.
I know, I read it. My point was that this points to a bigger problem of men either not knowing how to talk to women or being uncomfortable with it which is leading to increasing numbers of Incels.
I’m not trying to say that male managers shouldn’t avoid some situations but those are few and far between in my experience.
Maybe I am not following your viewpoint but are you concerned that you will say something that could be perceived inappropriate or are you concerned about a false allegation?
If the latter then I think you are being way too paranoid.
Perfect emotional triggering of OP. Well done cnbc.com.
When my wife was pregnant I went to some of her OB appointments. If the doctor was a male when he was doing any procedure he ALWAYS brought in a nurse to be in the room with him. The female doctors didn't do this. Why do you think this is? (And we saw a rotating group of doctors we saw about 5 different male OB's and 3 or 4 female ones. This happened every single time without exception.)
To be fair having my vagina examined by a male doctor is a tiny bit different than having a meeting about a project with my male boss.
False allegation. If you are in the same room as a woman alone, all it takes is an allegation.
I don't think that's paranoia in the least. Maybe 90% of women wouldn't do it. But if 10% will and this woman is part of that 10% it can ruin you. Say you have to fire her later on for some reason, or say you promote someone else but her. All she has to do to get a big settlement from a company that doesn't want it's name ruined is to say that she wasn't promoted or she was fired because she refused to have sex with you.
If you are in a room alone with her and the door shut, she controls the narrative of what happened in that room.
When my wife was pregnant I went to some of her OB appointments. If the doctor was a male when he was doing any procedure he ALWAYS brought in a nurse to be in the room with him. The female doctors didn't do this. Why do you think this is? (And we saw a rotating group of doctors we saw about 5 different male OB's and 3 or 4 female ones. This happened every single time without exception.)
Dude, at this point there is an article or a poll that can confirm any thought (or feeling) anybody has. Everybody knows you've had some bad luck with women, or a woman.It confirms what I thought. At least guys are wising up it seems.
Dude, at this point there is an article or a poll that can confirm any thought (or feeling) anybody has. Everybody knows you've had some bad luck with women, or a woman.
This wreaks of paranoia.
Your example is SOP for that situation (as it should be) and where I work we have a similar policy for people who come in for meetings.
I put nobody on a pedestal based solely on gender.I find it weird that you put women on the pedestal that you do.
Me thinks Ol' JR is a bit frightened of the broads.
I put nobody on a pedestal based solely on gender.
Historically-speaking, I think the evidence bears out that men are more prone to violence (especially against women), especially violence at scale.Lol right....What was your phrase in the other thread?? Something like "Gentle creatures, blah blah blah...."??
Historically-speaking, I think the evidence bears out that men are more prone to violence (especially against women), especially violence at scale.
When it comes to the abortion issue, I do believe men should not be legislating this. This issue reveals to us how deeply ingrained patriarchy remains in our society.
Historically-speaking, I think the evidence bears out that men are more prone to violence (especially against women), especially violence at scale.
When it comes to the abortion issue, I do believe men should not be legislating this. This issue reveals to us how deeply ingrained patriarchy remains in our society.
Nobody cares about that stuff if you don’t already have a history of shady behavior and an HR file two inches thick.There's definite risk. If the job ultimately doesn't work out for her, any negative statement that can end with ..."because I'm a woman" will receive serious attention. And it doesn't matter how the man acts.
If she doesn't want you to take you down with her, it's not hard to make happen.
Act like a prick? You're picking on them because they're a woman.
Too nice? Patronizing them because they're a woman.
Completely indifferent? Not interested because they're a woman.
Help them up after they fall down? Think they are too weak to do it by themselves because they're a woman.
This isn't even including how your looks towards them can be construed.
Nobody cares about that stuff if you don’t already have a history of shady behavior and an HR file two inches thick.
I’d also add that not drinking heavily around (or with) co-workers eliminates 95% of the risk.
There's definite risk. If the job ultimately doesn't work out for her, any negative statement that can end with ..."because I'm a woman" will receive serious attention. And it doesn't matter how the man acts.
If she doesn't want you to take you down with her, it's not hard to make happen.
Act like a prick? You're picking on them because they're a woman.
Too nice? Patronizing them because they're a woman.
Completely indifferent? Not interested because they're a woman.
Help them up after they fall down? Think they are too weak to do it by themselves because they're a woman.
This isn't even including how your looks towards them can be construed.
When they happen, they can hurt. Ok.What? You know how badly false accusations hurt people in the public eye? The old front page news/ back page retraction effect has hurt a lot of people.
I can't say what they are for "the real world," but in academic medicine and research, the number of women mentoring men is certainly on the rise. And, frankly, I don't think anybody thinks twice about it.Curious what the numbers look like for female mgrs mentoring males.
It's not most women by any means but there are enough women with this attitude that you have to look out for yourself.
I think it's a little off to be uncomfortable mentoring someone. But that is only because mentoring can happen in public. But I wouldn't meet with a woman other than my wife alone.
When it came to discipline, I always had a witness for those conversations, no matter if it was a woman or man.