Divorce update...worse than I thought
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Unfortunately my fan club has banned me from commenting or having an opinion on such matters. Good luck Clarinda.
Was the screwing you got worth the screwing you're getting?
Child abuser, adulterer, tax cheat.
If ther are the things you share with the world, who knows what it is you actually have enough sense to be ashamed of.
If ther are the things you share with the world, who knows what it is you actually have enough sense to be ashamed of.
lets apply a bit of elementary reasoning to this:
You murder someone one time - you are a murderer
You commit adultery one time - you are an adulterer
You're telling me you slap a child across the face but that doesn't make one a child abuser? Did you go to penn state?
You murder someone one time - you are a murderer
You commit adultery one time - you are an adulterer
You're telling me you slap a child across the face but that doesn't make one a child abuser? Did you go to penn state?
I am not condoning it, but I'm not going to throw labels around on him in this case. I would need to see more of a pattern than one episode of a poor choice.
That's a reasonable stance, but given clarindas admitting to two other major character flaws/crimes in the same thread, I think the evidence is pretty clear what kind of person he is and it's not someone deserving the benefit of doubt.
We all make mistakes in our lives.
I hope Clarinda will look at this as an opportunity. Its a good opportunity to turn things around.
I hope Clarinda will look at this as an opportunity. Its a good opportunity to turn things around.
I don't have any advice, but I do sympathize with your situation. I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that it's the most brutal and destructive thing that can happen to people without laws being broken. Hell, there are a few felonies that do less damage than divorces.
Slapping a kid on the face isn't child abuse. You may disagree, but it's not child abuse.
How about i slap you in the face and tell you it's not abuse?
It's not up to your opinion, especially since you are clearly a person of extremely low moral character.
I didn't know a single thing about this situation until this thread and really id like to call the IRS, your wife's lawyer, and CPS on you simply based on the things you've posted and somehow you feel like you are a victim here? Have you ever talked with a psychiatrist before?
"Hot bread on a cold soup night." I need to file that one away. Thanks buddy.Ah, I'm so glad this is all behind me. Never again.
I get to watch (from a third party distance) as another guy gets a divorce and he hasn't bothered to hire a lawyer yet. (Not the poster...someone else, probably) Twenty year marriage. Two kids (which has got to be the worst part...I can't imagine what they are going through.)
Anyway the guys wife owned a business but from what I understand it never saw a livable profit. Meanwhile he worked and I'm sure his paychecks were what paid the bills. But the wife closed the business and has taken a job, and lo and behold he's now a total jerk and must be removed from her life.
By removed, that is she wants him to keep the house (farm like with some land and expensive to keep, came from her family.) herself to keep the kids, full custody. And Oh, since he gets the house she wants more money.
I have no idea what he wants but it doesn't matter because without a good lawyer all he's going to get is what she decides he gets.
The best part (I hear this stuff from an ally of the wife, so I get her side.) is her lawyer has now advised her to file for a restraining order and force him to leave the house (for now) and keep him away from the kids without supervised visits. I just love this part of our system...........keep in mind, her lawyer advised her because it would help her with the divorce. So tell me...is there someone committing domestic abuse here? Yeah, I think so and it's with the system's help.
And get this. She's got receipts from the last six years which she kept showing everything which was brought in and how it got spent. According to her of course. Six years? Think she's been planning this for awhile? But! I've been told her lawyer didn't want them...probably because they'll show she wasn't earning any money!!!
And let's be real. What happened is somewhere upon deciding that the business was no longer capable of paying it's own bills...forget the profit beyond that which was always miniscule at best. Anyway, once it was decided the business had to go, it became obvious a job would mean actual money. Actual money meant freedom, if she could unload the husband. Now, I don't know the guy and he might have been a total jerk....but man he let the "store" idea go for a long time without tossing his cookies. That doesn't SOUND like a jerk to me.
So she's got a little money from her job. The kids are old enough to watch themselves an hour or two at least, but screw him they're all hers as far as she's concerned. If she could dump the house she could get a cheaper place, which means more money and frankly maybe even a really nice apartment so no upkeep! Hey! That's what he's good for! He can keep the crap she doesn't want and by the way PAY to keep it! More money!!!
And I can practically guess what will happen. She'll probably get all pretty again and down the road in a few years when the kids are college age she'll have some guy convinced she's hot bread on a cold soup night. At least that's probably part of the plan. Edit to add...and hey, I've been ignorant a lot longer than I've been smart...I should have said she might already HAVE another victim lined up.
Well here is my plan guys.F' em. Seriously. Have a great time. Then lie and cheat and never call 'em unless you think you can get another night in the sack without conditions. Be not concerned one bit with the old "nice guy" stuff. It's the nice guys getting tossed like a salad! If you think you've ever broken a woman's heart, you are dead wrong. They haven't got one. All they get upset over is when they've wasted time and didn't suck the life out of another victim. You got money burning a hole in your pocket and you're lonely? Buy a Harley and hire a pro.
Well here is my plan guys.
You don't have a daughter, do you.
That's a good question. Yes, I do. I also had a mother and two sisters before age and natural illness took them. I also have sisters-in-law, nieces, the whole gambit.
Very good question. Like grabbing a hostage and holding them like a shield.
Doesn't change my perspective in the least.
