Well boyz, I'm getting back in the dating game!
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Popping in to see if op got a date, finger banged her, and went home with blue balls.
At our pre-Cana, I remember a middle aged male leader telling us guys to never say no to a wife’s request for sex. I can say I’ve lived up to that and wish there’d been a lot more requests.
I'm back!
She was super nice and cute. (No pics, sorry) Real classy.
I got a table near the entrance to Starbucks 15 minutes early and she was on time. She lived walking distance from Starbucks so that's great.
When she arrived, she sat down and I asked if she wanted anything to drink. She asked if I was getting anything and I said water.
She got some Strawberry fizzy water and tried to pay. Nice gesture. Lol, of course I'm paying. I'm not a total douche. I did the new credit card "tap" thing on the machine. Very convenient. CSB.
Then we sat back at the table and talked about saints and travel for about 30 minutes straight. She's been going on silent retreats with some Nuns and went to Spain to visit Teresa of Avila's convent.
We talked about Maximilian Kolbe and Padre Pio. We talked about family and work.
I talk with people using the "FORD" method:
Family
Occupation
Recreation
Dreams
She said her apartment lease is ending in a couple months and she may move back with her parents for a year. She's an only child and her parents live about 25 miles from the Starbucks.
After about an hour, I wrapped things up. She said it was "great" meeting up and I agreed. I told her I would text her a documentary of Saint Padre Pio we talked about.
The date went well although I didn't feel a "spark." I hope she didn't like me too much because I hate to hurt feelings.
I wish her the best.
She was super nice and cute. (No pics, sorry) Real classy.
I got a table near the entrance to Starbucks 15 minutes early and she was on time. She lived walking distance from Starbucks so that's great.
When she arrived, she sat down and I asked if she wanted anything to drink. She asked if I was getting anything and I said water.
She got some Strawberry fizzy water and tried to pay. Nice gesture. Lol, of course I'm paying. I'm not a total douche. I did the new credit card "tap" thing on the machine. Very convenient. CSB.
Then we sat back at the table and talked about saints and travel for about 30 minutes straight. She's been going on silent retreats with some Nuns and went to Spain to visit Teresa of Avila's convent.
We talked about Maximilian Kolbe and Padre Pio. We talked about family and work.
I talk with people using the "FORD" method:
Family
Occupation
Recreation
Dreams
She said her apartment lease is ending in a couple months and she may move back with her parents for a year. She's an only child and her parents live about 25 miles from the Starbucks.
After about an hour, I wrapped things up. She said it was "great" meeting up and I agreed. I told her I would text her a documentary of Saint Padre Pio we talked about.
The date went well although I didn't feel a "spark." I hope she didn't like me too much because I hate to hurt feelings.
I wish her the best.
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I already gave OP’s mom all my ejaculations from the past four years. Multiple locations, too!
If you found her super cute and nice, why wouldn’t you give her a second chance?
Good question.
I just wasn't feeling it. I'm sure she would have great chemistry with many other people.
Also, she's moving and made it seem like she wouldn't mind moving to another state. I don’t want to move. That's one of my few requirements.
Water, huh? She must’ve appreciated the investment in the date. 😂
She was probably being polite and taking her cue from you.Hers was Strawberry fizzy water at least.
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But what if she just wanted to **** you a few 100 times before she moves. Is that so bad?Good question.
I just wasn't feeling it. I'm sure she would have great chemistry with many other people.
Also, she's moving and made it seem like she wouldn't mind moving to another state. I don’t want to move. That's one of my few requirements.
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Wait until the Fever game is finished or else she won't answer.
Careful, this sounds a lot like a date (including the lack of an initial “spark”) I had about 16 years ago (minus the saint/Catholic talk)….16 years and three kids later, here I am.
Also, don’t buy into the catholic “rhythm method” BS. They all use some type of birth control, they just don’t talk about it. And yes, I know because I’m Catholic, grew up Catholic, and my kids go to Catholic school. Actually was in a conversation with a group of guys/dads where someone cracked a joke about it and everyone just laughed like, “yeah, right”.
I think you should get back out of the dating game, bruh.
Good question.
I just wasn't feeling it. I'm sure she would have great chemistry with many other people.
Also, she's moving and made it seem like she wouldn't mind moving to another state. I don’t want to move. That's one of my few requirements.
She's moving back with her parents who are about 25 miles away from your meetup point? That doesn't seem like you need to move.
I'm sort of thinking you should probably give it a few more dates. I don't personally put a lot of stock in the "spark" or "chemistry". If she's attractive to you and you guys have similar moral and religious views.
Also my wife and I's first date didn't go well. She was nervous and only gave one word answers to anything I asked about her so it was impossible to start a good conversation and so I got bored and my eyes started drifting up to a TV in the restaurant we were in.
Anyways we overcame that and now we've been married 14 years, 4 months and 17 days and have 3 kids ages 11, 9, and 8.
Granted if you've gone out with her 3 or 4 times and find her boring or don't find her fun or interesting than probably call it off, but I wouldn't put a lot of stock into not feeling anything after a 30 min conversation. Sometimes people need to get to know you a bit before their fun side can come out. Also would suggest doing something fun where you can laugh at yourself and one another. Wife and I went bowling and neither of us are expert bowlers, I think that was important because it brought out our sense of humor.
Not "all" do.
Maybe 90% of " Cafeteria Catholics" ignore Church teachings they don't like.
Do you still to go to Mass, Confession and try to live in a state of grace?
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She mentioned moving out of state as well. She's originally from upstate New York.
Several times in the past, I've gone on more dates with someone I didn't really fit with on the first date and it never worked out. I usually know within 10 minutes if there will be chemistry or not. I also felt bad because I was sort of leading them on by going out with them again after I wasn't interested.
How does a person know if they should get married?
I never want to have kids so that's probably a good sign I'm not called to marriage until I'm old.
I asked my spiritual advisor that question. He was dating until he was 33 then entered seminary.
I asked him: "How does a person know if they should get married?" and he replied: "There is some mystery in it "
Yep.
Do you not enjoy liquids other than water at Starbucks?Yeah. Nice and casual.
If you don't feel a connection, probably best to not pursue
