I hate to quote at length, but there is so much there.
1. People "surmise" what happened. They don't know. And because there was so much anti-Cael sentiment that predated his even leaving ISU among the Iowa crowd, what do they surmise. The absolute worst - even if there is no basis for their beliefs. Fact is, there are no facts known about what Cael required or didn't require of Long at PSU. If there were, I'm sure someone from this board would have been able to point it out.
2. If you read KJ's statement in your "2" above, there is no indication that Long was *not* taking steps to address his personal issues at Penn State. Quite the opposite. KJ said "Andrew decided he could best address those issues in a place where he would be starting over. ..." Sounds like it was believed that Long *would* be addressing those issues while at PSU. KJ didn't say "hey, this is a bad idea" and, if I'm going to surmise, I'm going to surmise that KJ and Cael talked about the possible transfer before it happened. Especially since KJ said "(w)e will honor his decision and support his efforts to address his personal issues."
3. Your "3" is pure speculation.
4. Your "4" is misplaced, but underlines that you don't have knowledge of the actual circumstances and that you are, indeed, speculating.
5. The real fact is Long made it through the wrestling season and remainder of the second semester without incident as far as I know. The incident that led to his arrest occurred during the summer. So your concerns about asking too much from Long seem to be misplaced. His "bad act" occurred when he was not in school, not in the middle of a wrestling season, etc. So maybe, just maybe, there was, in fact, a good support system in place for him during the spring semester of 2011. Or is that too hard to wrap one's head around?
The whole Iowa getting super-offended because Cael left Iowa's instate rival is probably the hardest thing for people outside your (not you personally, the larger "you") little bubble to understand. Yeah, Cael chose to leave ISU for what he perceived as a better opportunity. ISU was able to replace him with KJ, who seemed to be a pretty good replacement at the time. Over time, Cael has been proven right about the PSU job - he's now #1 in the country instead of #2 in Iowa. KJ hasn't panned out like people thought he would. Why are Iowa fans so upset about Cael changing jobs? It's pathological. Unless they were worried that the Cael/PSU combo was going to change Iowa's fortunes down the road - and not very far. Something tells me I might be onto something.