It seems to me that states need to makes special rules for how to handle suspension-worthy infractions that occur in the last event leading into the postseason tourneys. In general, a rule that suspends a wrestler for the next dual or in-season tourney is not a rule that should be applied identically to the state championships or its qualifying tourney. In the two examples (WI, NY) discussed thus far, there is no distinction being made between a "regular" event and the ultimate event that kids have been killing themselves for all season long (or even all career long). In both cases, while the punishment is the same (suspension for next event), the consequences are vastly different (missed dual vs. missed championships).
Let's take the emphasis off officials having to be extra cautious with judgment calls with badly-behaved wrestlers and modify the rules slightly to have consequences that are more reasonable.
For example, if a wrestler with a flagrant or two unsportsmanlike conduct calls normally must miss the next competition date (typically a dual), then just have the wrestler forfeit his next scheduled match if the infraction occurs in the last event leading into postseason tourneys. That allows him (in most cases, I assume) to still work for a spot at states. If it happens at a qualifying tourney, he has blown his shot to be state champ, but still has a chance to finish his year/career on the podium.
I'm sure there are other ways to do it, but anything is better than this stuff ending up going to court.