IC/CR divorce lawyer recommendations
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Same thing. You want to take away my health insurance so any significant health issue would kill me. Plus, you have advocated for killing off old people in the past. I suspect you will change your tune once you hit 65.
I pay almost twice as much more per month for Medicare and a supplement for just me, than I did for health insurance purchased thru the exchange for BOTH my wife and me. My wife is still covered under the exchange as she is 64....her premium nearly tripled.
Before I went on Medicare, our monthly premium for health insurance was $177. Now, we pay almost $800. Seems to me you would want me to continue paying MORE into the system.
I talked to Viner too. He was expensive but seemed like the Alison Werner Smith types
Seriously... have a close friend whose family members will not take out life insurance. Watching too many episodes of Dateline have created trust doubts.
I was then and remain today 100% supportive of my daughter when it came to her ex.
It’s war and you take no prisoners.
There were (thankfully) no children who are typically the real casualties. So yeah I was judgmental. And I think most people are in win/lose situations.
Uh…plenty on your side as I’m seeing pretty much everybody represented here. But you do you broseph and think whatever makes you feel special.
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Understood. 😉 My daughter (no pics) is now on decent terms with her ex but he had been cheating on her. And was becoming abusive.
A few months after they separated he was arrested and jailed for a second DUI and his (meddling and small minded) parents blamed her! Things were very ugly and bitter during the process. My role was to be a sympathetic ear and to help financially. I kept out of the rest.
I called around to some attorney friends, some of whom had been divorced themselves and one firm kept coming up. They all said something along the lines of get the best now cause it’s a one and done. Not a moment of regret about who she hired and she’s recommended them to others (male and female).
I’m sad for her sake she’s not going to have children, but if she did her ex MIL would have been an ongoing meddlesome nightmare. She’s one of those women whose kid could shoot someone in front of a crowd and she would say something or someone forced her kid to pull the trigger.
Life moves on and my daughter is much happier now.
Bad attitude.
But.....once you hit 65 I expect you to not enroll in Medicare Part B, to not buy a supplement or health insurance of any kind, nor to ever see a doctor or seek medical care for anything.
You won't though, because you are all talk.
Everything. Mediocre success, fears about the aging process in general, poor life choices, and failed personal relationships.
It’s not that hard to figure out.
We both are. FWIW I can only WISH I were 57 again. 😏
Me too. Healthy, retired, no financial worries, wonderful wife, kids and grandkids.
To quote Joe Walsh: "Life's been good to me so far."
I cling to the saying “It’s better to be old than cold”.
If you haven't done so already change all your passwords, if you share a cell phone account get your own account as he can currently get access to all your calls etc. Delete or scrub your social media accounts as any competent attorney will have staff review what you have posted on social media.
Says the guy who worships a dude who cheated on all of his wives and is a serial sexual assaulter. You have no moral high ground.
Those of you saying "its a war" are why I am getting out of the business. B/c that is a stupid way to go about it. Just be more smart than your soon to be ex-spouse. Iowa is a no fault state, so outside of the children how can you punish someone? The property settlement will be decided in equity. Jeesh, be better.
Anyone use anyone with the names Moreland or Ballard ( different firms)
These are names my family lawyer recommended. For right or wrong I kind of thought I wanted female attorney. But that just be from an bias with having kids involved
These are names my family lawyer recommended. For right or wrong I kind of thought I wanted female attorney. But that just be from an bias with having kids involved
I did that and it was a life saver. My attorney told me the obvious, that if my ex picked a fight with me and called the cops I would be removed from the house. My ex was verbally abusing our children and I asked her to stop, and she replied "Next time you threaten me will be the last." As I had never threatened her ever, I figured she was about to make a false allegation so I started recording everything any time we were both in the house. She knew it and would demand that I turn it off when she would want to "speak" to me. I'd just tell her to not say anything she wouldn't want recorded. It kept things civil and me in my home. I even slept with a recorder going at all times in case she decided to attack me in my sleep and then claim self defense or something. Those were some dark days.
In marriage terms..is it better to be "married and miserable" or "single and poor"?
Cause that view might have kept me married for 50 years.
Well, you were very smart. My 1st wife took a couple swings at me and gave me a black eye. I still didn't respond or call the cops. Cops are too willing to believe the woman over the man in those situations. I thought about calling, then I remembered Marky Mark punching/bruising himself and the other person was charged.
My ex hit me plenty of times. I never hit her back, ever. Also, never crossed my mind to call the cops as she didn't cause any damage, and even if she had they weren't going to believe the guy. When our kids were small she seemed to prefer to take swings at me only when I was holding a baby or a toddler. One time I got lucky and caught her by the wrist when she swung at me while I had our toddler in my arms. That is all I did is stop her punch by catching her by the wrist, then I immediately let go of her. Not long after during an annual physical my doctor asked if I ever get rough with my wife during arguments. I deduced from that there must suddenly have been something in my medical record suggesting that I had. I assumed that she told her doctor that I had and it made it to my doctor and medical record.
For sure there are assholes on both sides. I imagine you heard a lot of people say that they wanted to see their estranged spouse punished/suffer/etc.
Yeah, that is unethical in my opinion. Just to hurt people.
Holy crap. You were married to a psycho bitch. Bet life is way better not having to deal with this nonsense.
Yes I was and yes it is. I actually feel bad for her. Her mental health problems got way worse a few years after our divorce. Those I feel are the root of her problems and life has been hard for her. She has my sympathy, and she's a better human today than a decade ago, but I am very happy to not have them be my problems directly anymore.
I would advocate it across the board and accept it. Solve the debt for everyone.
It's not about me,.but you wouldn't understand that.
I read somewhere that the largest increase in divorce in a single group was the “Silver Split”.
You get married young, you have kids,
Your career(s) are busy and you’re raising the family and that’s your existence.
They grow up and move out. You and a stranger are living together. Neither of you are the person who married that other person. The sex is not what it was.
Honest discussions about what happens next have to be open.
I don't practice family law, but Bray & Klockau where I send anyone with family law questions. Very good firm.I'm sorry I don't.
This firm specializes in it, and it is 3 attorney firm that is highly rated. But I have no experience with them to verify
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Boy, here this was a nice little thread about divorce and some of you had to make it a pity party about being owned by the Libs.
No wonder so many of you are divorced.
No wonder so many of you are divorced.
The second and third lines are my wife and myself. Our kids are 17, 15, and 13, so our life will be radically different five and a half years from now. We have been conscientiously having discussions about life after the kids are gone to avoid the fourth. I think we're going to be good, but it's easy to see how relationships can become frayed beyond repair, especially if people in those relationships aren't being vigilant in maintaining them.
Sorry to say this but your wife is screwing another dude.
I hope you don’t have kids, if you do, don’t make it about destroying your wife. Make it 100% about your kids.
I hope you don’t have kids, if you do, don’t make it about destroying your wife. Make it 100% about your kids.
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