I have talked with many Ukrainians and they don't share your opinions. They want to defeat Russia and kick them out of their country and to do so, they want our help. Like I said previously, no one is making them do anything. That's a naive pov to think otherwise.
Depends are where they are from and their status. Like in US not all share the same opinion. Are they on the ground in combat zones or in west Ukraine? Have you been there? Have you been east of Kyiv and south?
Of course most all want the Russians gone, even in the Donbas. Do they want to die in a preventable proxy war for 5k per year income due to corruption?
Pre war there were 85 men to every 100 women due to poverty, poor medical care, and leaving the country. One of my friends is pretty gung ho about the war. He and his brother are draft age and continue to farm, paying the "fee" of $500 to get out of the war if in certain occupations. Other farmers hide during the day.
When all is said and done the death toll will be much higher than put out. The nation is getting devastated by a military they can't defeat without direct US involvement. They can never use our tanks and fighters effectively for a variety of reasons.
In 20 years, there will be little to show for a million deaths. It is you who is naive. In Russian/Ukrainian movies the hero most always dies, totally different than most US movies. The culture is so vastly different. You should learn about it.
To be clear:
I am pro Ukraine
I am against Putin
Obviously you talk not to people with sons about to age into the draft or in the military. Ask them if they are as gung ho about ending insane levels of corruption after the war is over so they can join EU and NATO. Ask them.
This war isn't as portrayed.