I must be doing something wrong......when I empty the dishwasher, pick up the kitchen, etc. its usually because:
1) It just needs to be done and I'm not a slob
2) I've already pissed TBW off enough for the day or week, so I'm just trying to save face
3) I intend to casually let her know that I will be going hunting, fishing or golfing this weekend so I am trying to build up some good will credit.
I would imagine if when she came through the door after a day at work and I said "Look honey, I emptied the dishwasher so its time to suck my crank!" that the series of events that occur after that would most definitely NOT lead to me getting my crank sucked.