Oh fùck off. This shit’s been covered plenty already.
Here are my insights. First, biology evolves. And there’s more to gender and sex stuff than just the penis/vagina biology. Reducing the complexity of all this stuff to that is lazy and convenient, and conveniently lazy. A little study into how we’ve been fùcking with the human endocrine system might surprise some folks.
Second, the idea that a woman is only a woman based solely on reproductive capability is also lazy and convenient and conveniently lazy. There are social constructs, too. And then, well, some humans born with a vagina are never able to reproduce. Myriad reasons. Same with humans born with a penis.
I have to laugh because it’s not hard for people to understand some of this. Straight men, I ask you. Did you CHOOSE to be a straight man, identifying as society generally identifies men? I suspect not. It just was, and is. You knew nothing else.
My brother is gay. Not by choice. I have a trans friend. It’s not a choice.
Pretty much everything about society reinforces gender identity and sexuality things for straight born-with-a-penis men and born-with-a-vagina women. Try to imagine if it didn’t. We are bombarded all day everyday with environmental information that helps frame our world and how we see ourselves in it, including gender identity and sexuality stuff. It’s a relative privilege to “fit” easily. I enjoy it. Most of us do. It’s complex, but not hard. It’s easy to recognize and respect the complexity, and reserve space for it.