I hate dining out with people that are rude to servers

[QChawks]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

 

[jasonrann]

I call them out. It's BS.

 

[millah_22]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

Had a friend that said he'd get the tip and threw a single dollar bill on the table. Like.. what??? She was a good server.

He was pretty embarrassed when I threw a much bigger tip on the table.

 

[THE_DEVIL]

Next time he starts up call him by his first name as loud as needed and tell him to shut up or put him in a home and be done with it.

 

[JWolf74]

Had a friend that said he'd get the tip and threw a single dollar bill on the table. Like.. what??? She was a good server.

He was pretty embarrassed when I threw a much bigger tip on the table.

My in laws aren't rude, but they don't tip particularly well. There's been several times I've had to "use the bathroom" as we were leaving, and I'd double back and throw more money on the table.

 

[GES4]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

A pet peeve of mine is diners that don't acknowledge what their order is when the server arrives with it. "Cheeseburger?" followed by head down silence. "Hey fatty, did you order the cheeseburger?!?"

 

[QChawks]

My in laws aren't rude, but they don't tip particularly well. There's been several times I've had to "use the bathroom" as we were leaving, and I'd double back and throw more money on the table.

you can really learn a lot about people when you dine out with them

the other pet peeve is leaving their table a focking mess too, if you aren't going to tip well at least pick up your trash and stack your plates

come on people

 

[Aardvark86]

In my experience, truly rude diners are relatively rare.

What I hate are the diners that, from the initial greeting at the table, immediately immerse themselves into a mode where they seek to control the server doing their job in the most mind numbingly detailed ways, typically in a saccharine-sweet voice, with the purpose of making sure that the server understands that they are to kiss the diner's ass for the duration of the meal.

 

[runkpanole]

I’ve never been more embarrassed than times I’ve been with family members who are aholes to service staff.

 

[BrianNole777]

In my experience, truly rude diners are relatively rare.

What I hate are the diners that, from the initial greeting at the table, immediately immerse themselves into a mode where they seek to control the server doing their job in the most mind numbingly detailed ways, typically in a saccharine-sweet voice, with the purpose of making sure that the server understands that they are to kiss the diner's ass for the duration of the meal.

Could you write your posts in layman's terms?

I often have trouble understanding your writing style.

TIA.

 

[EagleHawk]

you can really learn a lot about people when you dine out with them

the other pet peeve is leaving their table a focking mess too, if you aren't going to tip well at least pick up your trash and stack your plates

come on people

Funny thing is, I see some waiters complain about people that stack their plates. I don't know if there is some secret way that you are supposed to do it, but it comes up every time there is an article online about it. Maybe if you leave the silverware on each plate as you stack them instead of putting them all on the top plate, that pisses them off?

 

[Aardvark86]

I’ve never been more embarrassed than times I’ve been with family members who are aholes to service staff.

 

[SoProudNole]

A pet peeve of mine is diners that don't acknowledge what their order is when the server arrives with it. "Cheeseburger?" followed by head down silence. "Hey fatty, did you order the cheeseburger?!?"

A pet peeve of mine is servers who don't know who the food belongs to when they bring it to the table.

 

[thewop]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

Agree. The person on the receiving end of the disrespect almost never is even the one at fault.

 

[ping72]

My in laws aren't rude, but they don't tip particularly well. There's been several times I've had to "use the bathroom" as we were leaving, and I'd double back and throw more money on the table.

Stop doing it surreptitiously, the boomers will never learn that way. Very openly add some more money to their tip.

 

[Bro D]

A pet peeve of mine is servers who don't know who the food belongs to when they bring it to the table.

Servers who don't write anything down when taking your order then mess up the order

 

[ping72]

A pet peeve of mine is servers who don't know who the food belongs to when they bring it to the table.

At most of the restaurants where I eat, it’s not the server who actually presents the food.

And if it is the server who presents the food, it’s usually the type of place where that underpaid server has way too many tables. I will give them some grace for not knowing who got the fish and who got the beef.

 

[BrianNole777]

Stop doing it surreptitiously, the boomers will never learn that way. Very openly add some more money to their tip.

My Dad is older than a boomer and very cheap. He once ate at a diner and left the server a handful of change as a tip.

When my Dad returned a week later, the server handed him the change and said: "You forgot this."

 

[BrianNole777]

Servers who don't write anything down when taking your order then mess up the order

Lol that happens alot.

Also servers that forget to bring me extra napkins after I request them.

 

[GES4]

A pet peeve of mine is servers who don't know who the food belongs to when they bring it to the table.

People that deliver food are not necessarily the people that took your order. Surprised you didn't know that.

 

[ping72]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

Also… i’ve been happily married for a long time. But if I were dating, someone who was rude to a server, that relationship would be ended immediately. A huge red flag for poor moral character.

To be honest, I would struggle to also be friends with anybody who was so disrespectful to another human being.

 

[GES4]

Also… i’ve been happily married for a long time. But if I were dating, someone who was rude to a server, that relationship would be ended immediately. A huge red flag for poor moral character.

To be honest, I would struggle to also be friends with anybody who was so disrespectful to another human being.

We've had an applicant out for a lunch interview and we dinged him simply because he was rude to the waitstaff. It is a sign of moral character. Same with people that are rude to janitors or civil servants.

 

[Tenacious E]

you can really learn a lot about people when you dine out with them

the other pet peeve is leaving their table a focking mess too, if you aren't going to tip well at least pick up your trash and stack your plates

come on people

I like to think I tip well, but it never occurred to me to clean our table ourselves, unless there was an accidental spill or we came with toddlers.

 

[ANYCHawk]

you can really learn a lot about people when you dine out with them

the other pet peeve is leaving their table a focking mess too, if you aren't going to tip well at least pick up your trash and stack your plates

come on people

Most resteraunt people do not want you to clean. Makes their lives more difficult. (and the old fashion answer, its not polite manners anyway)

 

[TennNole17]

My ex MIL was the worst, and I hated anytime we’d go out to eat.

One thing that was absurd- she’d just make up her own menu items or ask for insane substitutes

“Instead of the side salad, can I get a small sirloin?”

 

[QChawks]

Most resteraunt people do not want you to clean. Makes their lives more difficult. (and the old fashion answer, its not polite manners anyway)

interesting, I've not heard that one before

I just try to make a bit easier to clear the table, it was a much bigger deal when our kids were younger

 

[ANYCHawk]

interesting, I've not heard that one before

I just try to make a bit easier to clear the table, it was a much bigger deal when our kids were younger

Its cause they have their own way of stacking and organizing for either carrying or cleaning in the back. If you stack they often have to break it down into the way they like anyway so its just more work.

And according to old time manners, its rude to stack plates at the table.

 

[McLovin32]

None of my family are rude to servers, but like 6 or 7 years ago I was out to eat with my no pics grandma for her birthday. Our server was a hispanic gal with an accent, but spoke english perfectly. When she started telling us the daily specials my grandma leaned over the table to me and goes "McLovin, I cannot understand what she's saying" in the loudest ****ing "whisper" I've ever heard. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die. It was incredibly embarrassing.

I left the waitress like a 50% tip because it was just.....uncomfortable after she did that/csb

 

[millah_22]

None of my family is rude to servers, but like 6 or 7 years ago I was out to eat with my no pics grandma for her birthday. Our server was a hispanic gal with an accent, but spoke english perfectly. When she started telling us the daily specials my grandma leaned over the table to me and goes "McLovin, I cannot understand what she's saying" in the loudest ****ing "whisper" I've ever heard. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die. It was incredibly embarrassing.

I left the waitress like a 50% tip because it was just.....uncomfortable after she did that/csb

That is really interesting, thank you for sharing this.

 

[GES4]

None of my family is rude to servers, but like 6 or 7 years ago I was out to eat with my no pics grandma for her birthday. Our server was a hispanic gal with an accent, but spoke english perfectly. When she started telling us the daily specials my grandma leaned over the table to me and goes "McLovin, I cannot understand what she's saying" in the loudest ****ing "whisper" I've ever heard. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die. It was incredibly embarrassing.

I left the waitress like a 50% tip because it was just.....uncomfortable after she did that/csb

LMAO. When my oldest daughter was like 4, we had an Indian woman server. When she came to our table, my daughter said "Hola, mi llamo es Emma, como te llamas?" because she later told us she thought the server looked like Dora the Explorer.

 

[McLovin32]

That is really interesting, thank you for sharing this.

 

[Tom Paris]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

I would never be rude to someone who is handling my food. The worst I have ever been - and it's happened twice(once at Vito's and once at the old Del's in Eldridge) - is when I have had a rude, disinterested, terrible server, I have left a nickel or a dime on the table for her tip at the end. I honestly can't remember the last time I sent food back. It's probably happened 2-3 times in my entire life.

 

[WSC72]

Stop doing it surreptitiously, the boomers will never learn that way. Very openly add some more money to their tip.

Tipping has gotten out of control in my humble opinion.

 

[JWolf74]

This is another reason I think everyone should have to work in a restaurant or retail at some point. There would be a lot less people being pricks to service staff.

 

[alaskanseminole]

I cringe every time.

Now, I have no problems sending food back if it's wrong or asking why there is a delay getting served but I'll do it with respect.

I have a few friends, and my father, that are just downright mean and rude when these things happen.

I hate it!

Yup. My in-laws are rude to servers
Ticks me off to no end.

 

[millah_22]

Tipping has gotten out of control in my humble opinion.

We're not talking about overtipping. We're talking about hte people that leave a 5% tip on something that should be around 20.

 

[ping72]

We've had an applicant out for a lunch interview and we dinged him simply because he was rude to the waitstaff. It is a sign of moral character. Same with people that are rude to janitors or civil servants.

Absolutely. This has cost a lot of people jobs. And I suspect most never realize why they didn’t get it.

I have been at work places where the hiring manager will go out and talk to the person at the front desk or to other staff that might be perceived as low level who interacted with the candidate.

I personally know of one story where all of the higher-ups loved a person, but the receptionist said they were a jerk. The company did not hire them because of this. That’s the sign of an awesome employer.

 

[seminole97]

Tipping has gotten out of control in my humble opinion.

 

[WSC72]

We're not talking about overtipping. We're talking about hte people that leave a 5% tip on something that should be around 20.

Yeah, I get that, and agree with you. I was talking about people expecting to be tipped for just about anything these days.

( and I am a bit disappointed no one responded with a clip from Reservoir Dogs )

 

[QChawks]

Absolutely. This has cost a lot of people jobs. And I suspect most never realize why they didn’t get it.

I have been at work places where the hiring manager will go out and talk to the person at the front desk or to other staff that might be perceived as low level who interacted with the candidate.

I personally know of one story where all of the higher-ups loved a person, but the receptionist said they were a jerk. The company did not hire them because of this. That’s the sign of an awesome employer.

Last year I had a post interview lunch @ Applebee's with the hiring manager and a few of their colleagues. I joked with them at they probably need to make sure I don't chew with my mouth open or yell at servers. They told me they take all interviewees there and they knew the manager so well they would sometimes ask that they purposefully mess up the order (i.e. sub onion rings for fries) and see how the person would respond.

Good test to judge someone by.